J.LO LATEST TRYST WITH DRAKE, SIMPLY ANGLING FOR P.DIDDY?

Icheoku said it before and is saying it here again that Jennifer Lopez has only been in love and been loved once and can never find another true love, regardless of how many men she sleeps with or is seen with. She can outdo Liz Taylor and other Hollywood infamous 'pick and drop men' for all she wants and can, but until she resolves the monster inside her, the need to seek utopia, she can never truly be happy nor ever find the  loving man which she craves for. Icheoku is emphatic that all these her sleeping around and picking and dropping men is but a cry for help by a woman who could not find true love and is acting out in desperation. It is nothing else and it is not the fault of these many men who are now numbering in their tens. Jennifer Lopez is the reason Jennifer Lopez is sleeping around and cannot find a heart's delight. 

An alpha female who wants to be in charge and always in control, once had an opportunity to have a man who truly complimented her. A man who was both successful and confident in himself, but her immaturity forced her to hightail because of an incident in a New York nightclub. That man is Sean Combs aka P. Diddy and there will never be another perfect man for Jennifer Lopez like him. Women like and admire a man they can respect and who is not afraid to be a real man before them; not a man they can easily toss around and who is as good as any of their girlfriends. Women wants something different and which gives them reason to always be in the now, working him as a work in progress which they have to get done. P.Diddy was what the doctor Cupid prescribed for Jennifer Lopez; he was her only true love. So until she summons up the courage to damn the world and make peace with P.Diddy, she will keep on searching for that other elusive Mr Right which is not anywhere out there, because P.Diddy is it and P.Diddy is still very much a bachelor. ICHEOKU says yes, P. Diddy and J.Lo were made for each other and their hearts still beat for each other and they both need to swallow whatever ego and pride that is on the way and get back together. 

This is the cure to her sleeping around with so many men and her supposedly being unlucky in love syndrome. If she likes she can sleep with all the men in this world; if she likes she can marry more men than the duo of Liz Taylor and Zsa Zsa Gabor put together, married; but until her heart once again finds rest in the arms of P. Diddy, her search and sleeping around or laying in men's arms will continue indefinitely. The latest of this her cry for help, unlucky in love, men in her life saga, is the Canadian Hip Hop artist Drake, who was pictured in a cuddly pose with the Jenny from the block, her tenth man on record. ICHEOKU says her Drake encounter will also be as short lived as her other past many men, if not shorter. Drake is not the one and Drake does not possess the personality of one who who would be a Jennifer Lopez's keeper or someone she would last long with. She needs a man molded in the personality of P.Diddy, somewhat crazy and somewhat a ladies man with the means to back things up. P.Diddy is still around, so why try to settle for something like something, an imitation, when the original is still much around. There can only be one P.Diddy and that is the person Jennifer Lopez has a beating heart for, but is being held back by a society that is too judgmental and which likes to butt into other people's private and personal matters. 

So very soon Drake will also go down in history as one of the men Jennifer Lopez once screwed and dumped. And the list is long enough, from David Cruz to Wesley Snipes to Ojani Noa to Tommy Mottola to Puff Daddy to Chris Judd to Ben Affleck to Marc Anthony to Casper Smart and to now her latest fling, Drake. To say that Drake is equally lost in the wilderness of unlucky in love and not finding his heart's delight us far is also a true statement. He tried Rihana but came out short; then he was seen around Taylor Swift but that one also did not pan out well as it also went south and now Jennifer Lopez is his latest fill-up woman. Put in another way, both parties are forlorn in love troubled hearts, who are seeking for true love but unfortunately are not lucky thus far in finding it. Some school of thought even suggested that their latest cuddly picture was a mere show, possibly put up to get the attention of or annoy someone or towards some prospective business venture. But regardless, they are living a lie and deceiving each other doing this lovey-dovey cuddling in the arms of each other because they are both other people's woman and man respectively.  Drake is not the right type for Jennifer Lopez and Jennifer Lopez is not the right type for Drake either. They both belong to some other people; they need partners that will compliment them and not ones who will be in competition with them as they have similar qualities. 

Unfortunately for Jennifer Lopez, she has refused to grow up as she still attaches so much importance to her girlfriends instead of realizing the transition which parties to a marriage make when they get married. Girlfriends and boyfriends for the guy, becomes a thing of the past and merely secondary, but never allowed to retain or occupy the premier position which they did in the past single life. So it is rather foolish and ignorant for Jennifer Lopez to suggest in a December 2015 magazine interview that her girlfriends were as important as her husband. In her own words, "I think I realized they were as important — if not more important — when I divorced Marc. I just realized that I had been through that a couple of times and there they still were. Like they say, 'Men come and go, but my girlfriends are always there for me." Icheoku says here lies her problem for not realizing that she sacrificed her girlfriends when she got married. If she continues with this her misplaced priority, settling down or finding any man good enough to nurture a permanent long lasting relationship with will prove an unattainable goal.  Girlfriends will always remain who they are - they tell you what you want to hear and strive to be allowed around and not saying or doing anything to rock the boat, regardless of how irrational the circumstance or skewed a position which Jennifer took. 

Their only interest is to maintain the relationship and nothing more, hence even if Jennifer was wrong, they will always tell her that she was right, regardless. Therefore, it was a huge mistake for her to continue to keep those girlfriends around when she got married, especially because some of them who are not married might even be jealous of her and were bent on screwing things up for her. From a personal experience, a friend of a friend once wanted to move in after successfully engineering her friend to act in irresponsible manner that led to her being evicted. When asked why she did what she did, her only answer was that her friend was foolish and stupid to have acted as she acted and queried if someone told you to jump into an active volcano, would you? So it was her problem which she brought unto herself by heeding advice from her unmarried girlfriends. Such may be Jennifer Lopez's albatross and she is not realizing that as all these men could not be all monsters and she is the only one who is a Mother Theresa therein. Icheoku disagrees too and refuses to accept her off the cuff explanation that she is "more the good girl who was falling in love as opposed to the naughty girl who was running around." 

As far as Icheoku is concerned Jennifer Lopez is the problem because after ten men, it is safe to vouchsafe that something is wrong somewhere short of those ten men. She has to do some introspection and have a conversation with herself to actually find out where her problem is coming from. At best, it might be another case of a Hillary Clinton who lost an election because of Hillary Clinton; but instead of looking in the mirror is busy searching the entire wide world for the reason she lost the last presidential election. Admitted that women find it extremely difficult to own up or take responsibility for their actions or any other thing that went wrong, because it is never their fault, but the present 'catch and release' being practiced by Jennifer Lopez is entirely her fault, whether or not she is grown-up enough to accept it. Icheoku says as long as she remains in denial and lying to herself, that long will her being unlucky in love continue; as only her can help herself and do the needful to stay put with one man. Her honor is on the line; so is her pride, dignity and self respect; all of which she seems to have thrown away in a nonchalant way, all in the name of liberty and women emancipation. But decent men will stay away and not want to be stewed in a nearly public sewer, just like another man.

What point she is trying to prove is beyond Icheoku as her conduct thus far is not anything better than a glorified prostitute who is just hawking her body for whatever gratification that comes with it. How many men does she actually have to go through or are indeed enough for her to sample before she settle down; especially for a mother of two twins, one of which is a female and you wonder how delighted she will be watching her daughter grow up to be a man-changing nymph like her. What type of morality is she impacting on her female fans and what type of an ambassador is she to the family that raised her or does she really think what her mother and aunties are happy and not thinking negatively about her philandering ways. The most laughable part of the whole thing is her constant passing of the buck and blaming others for her foibles. Just listen to her: "Everybody has seen that I make mistakes. Every single album I have ever made is about love. But I am not going to give up. I have to look at what I do wrong. I rush in, I get swept up, I ignore the signs. But so many of us are guilty of these things. Each time it goes wrong it’s hard. I get really hurt but I have to let myself go: ‘What did I do? What can I learn?’ And as hard and as hurtful as things get, I want to believe I will be able to go one step higher. I’ve got to hope that if I keep going I will eventually get it right. I still believe in love; the nirvana man, he’s out there somewhere. But you just have to work at it. You have to work at everything." 

Jennifer Lopez or J.LO, Icheoku says the problem lies squarely with you and only you can resolve it because any willing woman can make her marriage or any other romantic relationship work. It requires hardwork and it requires her putting her man above every other thing including her girlfriends. In Mayor of Casterbridge, Michael's wife told him that a mistake is a mistake but once too often and thats exactly the case with Jennifer Lopez with men and it is about time all these her excuses stopped. The choice is hers to make and she at liberty to so do - either to want to settle down or not to settle down. She has to decide what exactly it is that she wants and seeks in a man, understanding that there is no complete or perfect man out there; and then prioritize what is important to her and then pull the lever accordingly. Marriage is not akin to playing blackjack in Las Vegas; it is not shopping for shoes either, where one keeps on trying shoes until one find a perfect fit. If she actually believes in love and not simply infatuated with her childhood Cinderella story, then she must curb her expectations and help mold her next catch into the man she wants him to be; or better still run back to P.Diddy which Icheoku highly recommends as the most partner appropriate man to her which she has ever dated. Goodluck J.LO and may the new year help you find that man you are looking for.