GUN VIOLENCE IN AMERICA: FOR WHO THE BELL TOLLS NEXT.

Just five people shy of Sandy Hook elementary school mass shooting incident that claimed 26 lives, the Uvalde Texas Robb elementary school mass shooting at 21 victims, now ranks among the highest grossing gun carnage in America. It is sad that such frequent blood spilling has tragically become part of our culture as a society. May the souls of the killed now rest.

25th AMENDMENT: ITS NOW ALL CRICKET.

Madam Speaker Nancy Pelosi once questioned former President Donald John Trump's fitness to remain in office due to what she claimed was his declining mental capacity. Does anyone know what Madam Speaker presently thinks about the incontrovertible case which America is now saddled with? Just curious!

WHO WILL REBUILD UKRAINE?

The West should convert frozen Russian assets, both state's and oligarchs' owned, into a full seizure and set them aside for the future rebuilding of Ukraine. Like the Marshal Plan, call it the Putin Plan.

A HERO IS BORN.

I am staying put. I will not run away and abandon my people. The fight is here in Ukraine. What I need are weapons and ammunitions, not a ride out of town like former Afghanistan President Ashraf Ghani - President Volodymyr Zelensky.

IT IS WHAT IT IS.

"There is too much hate in America because there is too much anger in America." - Trevor Noah.

WORD!

A life without challenges is not a life lived at all. A life lived is a life that has problems, confronts problems, solves problems and then learns from problems. - Tunde Fashola.

NOW, YOU KNOW.

When fishing for love, bait with your heart and not your brain, because you cannot rationalize love. - Mark Twain.

JUST THE FACT.

In our country, you can shoot and kill a nigger, but you better not hurt a gay person’s feelings - Dave Chappelle

DO YOU?.

“What you believe in can only be defined by what you’re willing to risk for it." - Stuart Scheller.

HEDGE YOUR CRISIS.

Never get in bed with a woman whose problems are worse than yours. - Chicago PD.

PROBLEM SOLVED.

'The best way to keep peace is to be ready to destroy evil. If you Pearl Harbor me, I Nagasaki you.' - Ted Nugent.

OUR SHARED HUMANITY.

Empathy is at the heart of who we are as human beings. - Cardinal Matthew Kukah.

WORDS ON MARBLE.

"Birth is agony. Life is hard. Death is cruel." - Japanese pithy.

REPENT OR PERISH - POPE.

Homosexuality is a sin. It is not ordained by God, therefore same sex marriage cannot be blessed by the church - Pope Francis.

CANCEL CULTURE IS CORROSIVE.


FOR SAKE OF COUNTRY.


MAGA LIVES ON: NO RETREAT, NO SURRENDER!

TWITTER IS BORING WITHOUT HIS TWEETS. #RestorePresidentTrump'sTwitterHandle.


WORD.

"If you cannot speak the truth when it matters, then nothing else you says matters.” - Tucker Carlson.

#MeToo MOVEMENT: A BAD NEWS GONE CRAZY.

"To all the women who testified, we may have different truth, but I have a great remorse for all of you. I have great remorse for all of the men and women going through this crisis right now in our country. You know, the movement started basically with me, and I think what happened, you know, I was the first example, and now there are thousands of men who are being accused and a regeneration of things that I think none of us understood. I’m not going to say these aren’t great people. I had wonderful times with these people. I’m just genuinely confused. Men are confused about this issue. We are going through this #MeToo movement crisis right now in this country." - Harvey Weinstein.


RON DELLUMS: UNAPOLOGETICALLY RADICAL.

"If it’s radical to oppose the insanity and cruelty of the Vietnam War, if it’s radical to oppose racism and sexism and all other forms of oppression, if it’s radical to want to alleviate poverty, hunger, disease, homelessness, and other forms of human misery, then I’m proud to be called a radical.” - Ron Vernie Dellums.


WHAT REALLY MATTERS IN LIFE - STEVE JOBS

“I reached the pinnacle of success in the business world. In others’ eyes, my life is an epitome of success. However, aside from work, I have little joy. Non-stop pursuing of wealth will only turn a person into a twisted being, just like me. God gave us the senses to let us feel the love in everyone’s heart, not the illusions brought about by wealth. Memories precipitated by love is the only true riches which will follow you, accompany you, giving you strength and light to go on. The most expensive bed in the world is the sick bed. You can employ someone to drive the car for you, make money for you but you cannot have someone to bear sickness for you. Material things lost can be found. But there is one thing that can never be found when it is lost – Life. Treasure Love for your family, love for your spouse, love for your friends. Treat yourself well. Cherish others.” - SJ

EVIL CANNOT BE TRULY DESTROYED.

"The threat of evil is ever present. We can contain it as long as we stay vigilant, but it can never truly be destroyed. - Lorraine Warren (Annabelle, the movie)


ONLY THE POOR WISH THEY HAD STUFF?

“I’m not that interested in material things. As long as I find a good bed that I can sleep in, that’s enough.” - Nicolas Berggruem, the homeless billionaire.

Showing posts with label women need a father-figure. Show all posts
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Sunday, December 6, 2015

WOMEN ARE CHILDREN, DO NOT IGNORE THEM.

Icheoku says women are like children, they want it all, everything, all the time. They throw tantrums if they don't get their wish. They are never responsible for their actions nor ever at fault for whatever they did wrong; hence the word "apology" or "I apologize" does not exist in their dictionary. They want and seek attention all the time and they can go to any length and however they see fit, including exhibiting irrational behavior or needless quarrels, to get it or show their disaffection. They also usually pushes the envelope to see how much they can get away with. Those of them who are married are often times, in constant battle with themselves and it manifests in attacks on their husbands, just to assert themselves. Sometimes, unthinking and non strategized men simply capitulate just to make the proverbial peace. Unfortunately, the same man who submitted in an attempt to make peace, would immediately lose it all and henceforth regarded and treated as no longer man enough, for and by the same woman who forced his testicles out.

Icheoku says any one who has ever had the confidences of a disaffected married women, will vouch that they are always complaining that their husbands no longer give them reason to still look up to them to provide the leadership role in the house and family. They usually lament that their husbands are no longer assertive, no longer show direction and too often concedes arguments and decision-making to them; instead of putting their feet down, which ironically, actually makes them feel that they have someone of authority in the house. So they begin to wonder to what use then is still having them sticking around the house when they are no longer motivated by them. This leads to relationship spiraling down and out of control, and eventually to break ups and divorces. Their argument is that women generally need to be given a reason to believe in a man and then follow his direction and leadership; otherwise they will bolt away because they cherish their independence a lot. Women need more than the penile appendage and money in a man; they need to be motivated and given a reason to believe in him.  

So to all those men out there, whining and whimpering about their lost mojo or its threatened loss, you just have to man up and firmly reassert yourself. Change your viewing lens and starts seeing your women as children and then that way, you will be enjoy a better relationship with them. To children, you have to be firm, love them, pamper them, provide them their needs only, but certainly not all their wants. You must also know when to say no and mean it. You must also have clearly delineated 'do not cross' red lines, that is well spelt out; and unlike President Obama did with Syria's Bashir Assad, be prepared to mete out consequences if crossed. If you have to be mad, please be mad; if you have to raise your voice, please do; if you have to take a walk, please make it extended; and if you have to embark on a strike, make it count. They are testing your resolve and they will like you more when they know that you have a core. Some women will actually tell you that they like it when their husbands makes them feel like they are indeed women; as it makes them feel they have somebody in authority in the house. They always need a father-figure around and usually long to find such in their husbands and would readily rebel if it is none existent. 

So short of physical and mental abuse, learn to periodically shake things up a little, especially when called for and never be afraid of her threats to end the relationship. They are most times bluffing and waiting to see how much they can run rings around you before coming around to love you for being the man they desire and deserve. Just know that chivalry is not dead and provided you give your love without reservation, provide their needs, do not bother if they throw tantrums because that new set of jewelry was not purchased nor approved on the back of an austere family's budget. Icheoku says it is about time men become men again and let their wives find reason to want to be with them; otherwise they will become needless boredom that their wives cannot wait to offload at the slightest opportune time. 

It is much easier in the Diaspora where society does not frown at women dumping their husbands. It is happening with great frequency among Nigerian communities too, which goes to show that many domiciled Nigeria women would readily offload their husbands, if not for a society that is so hampering that would frown at that. Therefore, for any relationship to have a chance at succeeding, the man must man up and be a man of the house right from the onset. There is no cooling off or waiting time period to lay the ground rules because with women, whatever is conceded can never be reclaimed. Moreso a firm respectful male leadership is always the cornerstone of every good relationship. Now you know why your relationship is not as good as that your neighbors or friends, so show the light, the right leadership and they will follow you without question.