NYOUNG YOU: SET HER FREE.

ICHEOKU says when are people going to start taking responsibility for their actions and not needlessly blaming others or someone else for making them do something. Unlike the Plainville teenager Michelle Carter who was convicted for "encouraging" her boyfriend Conrad Roy to kill himself, Nyoung You did not encourage nor force Alexander Urtula to jump off to his death. 

Here was a 22 year fully grown adult man, old enough to be a father, who gave in to the monsters in his head whispering to him to do it, and now a young woman's life is facing ruination just because she once dated him. So, what if she told him to go die or kill himself, commonly used fighting words, which people readily use each time they quarrel or have a fight with each other. A rather emotionally and psychologically disturbed individual, who couldn't stand losing his girlfriend, decided to end his sad life and some people wants to blame the girl as responsible for that? 

ICHEOKU says it certainly does not make any sense at all, as she is not his emotional support animal. At only 21 years old, she cannot be said to be responsible for what a 22 year man, who is  older than her, decided to do by ending his life. Both of them were mad at each other following an impending breakup of their relationship and as everybody knows, breaking up is usually not a happy nor easy thing. The girl reserves the right to walk away from a relationship which she is either fed up with or is no longer fascinating to her. She walked and the guy jumped, so why blame her for exercising a right which she fully have, freedom of association. 

Unless somebody is saying that the girl owes the guy her affection and love in perpetuity and has no right or choice whatsoever in who she dates, then she has no case to answer because a fully grown man decided to give up and give in to his emotional demons and took his own life. She did not push him, encourage him nor goaded him on to make the jump off the building. All she did was curse him out because of her frustrations with the relationship which is no longer working as she had expected it. She ended it and she is now being held to account for it just because she used common fighting words in exchanged texts with him. Really? 

That such words would be a ground for her an indictment is simply befuddling. Were that the case, millions of people would have similarly taken their lives, having been severally told in their lives to go die or kill themselves. Even parents sometimes curse out their children that they will never amount to something and that they should just go and die. How many of such parents have ever been charged when their child acts on their devious impulses; but here a young woman is being charged for a crime which she did not commit.   Charging her with involuntary manslaughter is not fair nor right or justifiable. She only used mere words and short of any other active involvement in bringing about his death, such should not have been sufficient to ground culpability, regardless of the pervasiveness nature of her use of those words. 

How could she have “physically, verbally and psychologically" abused him so much that it now graduated to a criminality. The guy was not chained to her and he was a fully grown adult who could have exercised his right to walk away and end whatever abusive relationship he was in with her, but chose otherwise. She was not his mother nor his care giver; and they being not married, does not owe him a duty of care not to "abuse" him or not to use those words which  the guy might have considered too much to handle. Love hurts and sometimes love also kills, but baring any express direct act which resulted in the death of another, mere words should not be ground for liability. What about the girl's freedom of speech and she did not shout fire in a crowded theater either; she merely ended a failed relationship. The duty of a tortfeasor to take his victim as he finds him does not arise here since the girl does not even know that she was dealing with an emotionally depleted flagella of a human being. 

So what if both of them exchanged thousands of text messages, lovers do; and even none lover like Queen Crooked Hillary Clinton wrote 57,000 emails, 33,000 of which she deleted and bleached washed, yet she has not been held accountable for them. Ms You sent 47000 text messages to Mr Urtula and he in return sent her 28000 text messages. So what is the big deal that a girl was in a relationship which was going no where and tired of it, decided to end it; but the guy tried to win her back but failed and decided to take his own life. People break up every day and they curse each other out while doing that, so why is this particular case any different.  Her traducers selectively leaked some text messages where she told him to go die and kill himself; but how about those romantic and affectionate ones where she professed her love for him or her desire to end it but he was being insistent to the point of irritating her and pushing her buttons. Why are all the text messages not being leaked or released. 

ICHEOKU says regardless of her threats to harm herself or her manipulative skills which she used on the guy, at the end of the day, it was the guy who had the primary duty and responsibility over his actions, including his decision to jump off a building to his death. This fact of consequence should be the guiding light in this matter because not every person that was ever told to go die or kill yourself, acted on it; the insistence or constant persuasion notwithstanding. The girl also proved herself a good person by returning to the United States to face her charges as many others who are similarly exposed would have decided not to return. What happened to the two young fellas is rather unfortunate; but the surviving girl who is already over traumatized by the suicide of her boyfriend should not be further exposed to more trauma by holding her accountable for the one who jumped first. May the guy now rest and may the girl be set free so that she can carry on with her life.