GUN VIOLENCE IN AMERICA: FOR WHO THE BELL TOLLS NEXT.

Just five people shy of Sandy Hook elementary school mass shooting incident that claimed 26 lives, the Uvalde Texas Robb elementary school mass shooting at 21 victims, now ranks among the highest grossing gun carnage in America. It is sad that such frequent blood spilling has tragically become part of our culture as a society. May the souls of the killed now rest.

25th AMENDMENT: ITS NOW ALL CRICKET.

Madam Speaker Nancy Pelosi once questioned former President Donald John Trump's fitness to remain in office due to what she claimed was his declining mental capacity. Does anyone know what Madam Speaker presently thinks about the incontrovertible case which America is now saddled with? Just curious!

WHO WILL REBUILD UKRAINE?

The West should convert frozen Russian assets, both state's and oligarchs' owned, into a full seizure and set them aside for the future rebuilding of Ukraine. Like the Marshal Plan, call it the Putin Plan.

A HERO IS BORN.

I am staying put. I will not run away and abandon my people. The fight is here in Ukraine. What I need are weapons and ammunitions, not a ride out of town like former Afghanistan President Ashraf Ghani - President Volodymyr Zelensky.

IT IS WHAT IT IS.

"There is too much hate in America because there is too much anger in America." - Trevor Noah.

WORD!

A life without challenges is not a life lived at all. A life lived is a life that has problems, confronts problems, solves problems and then learns from problems. - Tunde Fashola.

NOW, YOU KNOW.

When fishing for love, bait with your heart and not your brain, because you cannot rationalize love. - Mark Twain.

JUST THE FACT.

In our country, you can shoot and kill a nigger, but you better not hurt a gay person’s feelings - Dave Chappelle

DO YOU?.

“What you believe in can only be defined by what you’re willing to risk for it." - Stuart Scheller.

HEDGE YOUR CRISIS.

Never get in bed with a woman whose problems are worse than yours. - Chicago PD.

PROBLEM SOLVED.

'The best way to keep peace is to be ready to destroy evil. If you Pearl Harbor me, I Nagasaki you.' - Ted Nugent.

OUR SHARED HUMANITY.

Empathy is at the heart of who we are as human beings. - Cardinal Matthew Kukah.

WORDS ON MARBLE.

"Birth is agony. Life is hard. Death is cruel." - Japanese pithy.

REPENT OR PERISH - POPE.

Homosexuality is a sin. It is not ordained by God, therefore same sex marriage cannot be blessed by the church - Pope Francis.

CANCEL CULTURE IS CORROSIVE.


FOR SAKE OF COUNTRY.


MAGA LIVES ON: NO RETREAT, NO SURRENDER!

TWITTER IS BORING WITHOUT HIS TWEETS. #RestorePresidentTrump'sTwitterHandle.


WORD.

"If you cannot speak the truth when it matters, then nothing else you says matters.” - Tucker Carlson.

#MeToo MOVEMENT: A BAD NEWS GONE CRAZY.

"To all the women who testified, we may have different truth, but I have a great remorse for all of you. I have great remorse for all of the men and women going through this crisis right now in our country. You know, the movement started basically with me, and I think what happened, you know, I was the first example, and now there are thousands of men who are being accused and a regeneration of things that I think none of us understood. I’m not going to say these aren’t great people. I had wonderful times with these people. I’m just genuinely confused. Men are confused about this issue. We are going through this #MeToo movement crisis right now in this country." - Harvey Weinstein.


RON DELLUMS: UNAPOLOGETICALLY RADICAL.

"If it’s radical to oppose the insanity and cruelty of the Vietnam War, if it’s radical to oppose racism and sexism and all other forms of oppression, if it’s radical to want to alleviate poverty, hunger, disease, homelessness, and other forms of human misery, then I’m proud to be called a radical.” - Ron Vernie Dellums.


WHAT REALLY MATTERS IN LIFE - STEVE JOBS

“I reached the pinnacle of success in the business world. In others’ eyes, my life is an epitome of success. However, aside from work, I have little joy. Non-stop pursuing of wealth will only turn a person into a twisted being, just like me. God gave us the senses to let us feel the love in everyone’s heart, not the illusions brought about by wealth. Memories precipitated by love is the only true riches which will follow you, accompany you, giving you strength and light to go on. The most expensive bed in the world is the sick bed. You can employ someone to drive the car for you, make money for you but you cannot have someone to bear sickness for you. Material things lost can be found. But there is one thing that can never be found when it is lost – Life. Treasure Love for your family, love for your spouse, love for your friends. Treat yourself well. Cherish others.” - SJ

EVIL CANNOT BE TRULY DESTROYED.

"The threat of evil is ever present. We can contain it as long as we stay vigilant, but it can never truly be destroyed. - Lorraine Warren (Annabelle, the movie)


ONLY THE POOR WISH THEY HAD STUFF?

“I’m not that interested in material things. As long as I find a good bed that I can sleep in, that’s enough.” - Nicolas Berggruem, the homeless billionaire.

Monday, March 7, 2016

MARRIAGE AND THE WHAT PEOPLE WILL SAY INHIBITING FACTOR - ALBINUS CHIEDU

A major puncturing factor to the joy of many marriages today is the four-word phrase: “What people will say?” Because of this phrase, certain things that you ought to do to boost your marriage, strengthen bonding in your marital rela­tionship and increase your joy, are deliberately not done. 

You find a lady to marry. She is the love of your life. You love each other. Because of her occupational status, she has a car, house and some other assets that you do not have. You now feel that ‘if I marry her, people will say it is because of her wealth’. Now, you leave her and eventually marry someone that is wired for another man. Then, you begin to endure marriage instead of enjoying it. 

There are marriages where elements of romance are missing just because one or both parties are afraid of what people will say. “What will people say if I drive my wife in a car to a destination, alight quickly from the driver’s seat and rush to open the door for my wife like her employed driver? What will they say if I am taking a walk with my spouse and I hold him or her in a romantic manner? What will they say if I am the one cuddling my baby or bathing the child in public while my wife looks on? Will they not call me ‘woman wrapper?’ 

You have a wife who is an accountant by profession and prudent with spending, in contrast to you, a wasteful and careless spender. You know that if you hand over the family financial management to her, your family finance will improve and fami­ly business will grow. But you are finding it difficult to do that. Now, there has been financial and economic stagnation since you both officially became a couple. How will God’s plan for this marriage manifest? Ex­cept you call the bluff of what people will say. You are even accusing witches for your situ­ation instead of facing reality. 

You have a fiancĂ©e and you both have remained in pre-marital status for years, sim­ply because of what people will say if you do not throw a lavish wedding ceremony like so and so person. What will they say if you guys simply walk up to your clergyman or court registry with your family representative(s) as witness(es), take the marital vow and move forward with your life? They will say you did a poor man’s wedding. Right? 

You have money to buy a car but you have deliberately delayed purchasing one for your family. Why? Your wife can drive but be­cause of your job schedule and other factors  you have not been able to learn how to drive. ‘What will people say if I buy a car and my wife is the one always on the steer­ing during outings? 

You are presiding over a public meeting and your wife is among discussants. During discussions, she suggests an idea which happens to be superior to an idea that you earli­er tabled. Because the suggestion came from your wife, you jettison the suggestion. ‘What will people say if I implement what my wife has suggested? Won’t they say she is the one that dictates what I do?’ 

Maybe your wife is yet to conceive, years after marriage despite her good character as a person. You are considering going for an­other wife because of what people will say. Maybe also, you have had just one child for a long time and you are considering another woman for the purpose of having anoth­er child so that they will not say that you are infertile. You now want to break your mar­riage covenant and suffer implications be­cause of ‘people’. 

I don’t know what you may be passing through right now in your marriage and you are feeling so unhappy because of what people are saying already or what people will say, especially when that saying is not true. First, I want you to know that no matter what you do in life, people will always say something negative or positive about you. 

Secondly, if you run your marriage based on what people say or do not say, your marriage will lose its peculiar identity. Every marriage has a special element that makes it unique. So, you are expected by God to seek and strive to make your marriage work by putting in deliberate efforts to attract pos­itive ingredients that other marriages may not have. 

Thirdly, what people say about your marriage is totally irrelevant as long as you are living joyfully with your spouse and chil­dren in a godly way. It is what God says about your marriage that matters because God is the founder of the marital institution. As long as you run this institution based on the manual of the inventor, your problems will go at the rate at which they come. 

“For other foundation can no man lay than that is laid, which is Jesus Christ” (1 Corinthians 3:11). 

“Submitting yourselves to one another in the fear of God. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church, and he is the savior of the body. There­fore, as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. 

“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ loved the church, and gave himself for it. That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word. That he might present it to himself, a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle or any such thing, but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hateth his own flesh, but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church” (Ephesians 5:21-29 KJV).

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