GUN VIOLENCE IN AMERICA: FOR WHO THE BELL TOLLS NEXT.

Just five people shy of Sandy Hook elementary school mass shooting incident that claimed 26 lives, the Uvalde Texas Robb elementary school mass shooting at 21 victims, now ranks among the highest grossing gun carnage in America. It is sad that such frequent blood spilling has tragically become part of our culture as a society. May the souls of the killed now rest.

25th AMENDMENT: ITS NOW ALL CRICKET.

Madam Speaker Nancy Pelosi once questioned former President Donald John Trump's fitness to remain in office due to what she claimed was his declining mental capacity. Does anyone know what Madam Speaker presently thinks about the incontrovertible case which America is now saddled with? Just curious!

WHO WILL REBUILD UKRAINE?

The West should convert frozen Russian assets, both state's and oligarchs' owned, into a full seizure and set them aside for the future rebuilding of Ukraine. Like the Marshal Plan, call it the Putin Plan.

A HERO IS BORN.

I am staying put. I will not run away and abandon my people. The fight is here in Ukraine. What I need are weapons and ammunitions, not a ride out of town like former Afghanistan President Ashraf Ghani - President Volodymyr Zelensky.

IT IS WHAT IT IS.

"There is too much hate in America because there is too much anger in America." - Trevor Noah.

WORD!

A life without challenges is not a life lived at all. A life lived is a life that has problems, confronts problems, solves problems and then learns from problems. - Tunde Fashola.

NOW, YOU KNOW.

When fishing for love, bait with your heart and not your brain, because you cannot rationalize love. - Mark Twain.

JUST THE FACT.

In our country, you can shoot and kill a nigger, but you better not hurt a gay person’s feelings - Dave Chappelle

DO YOU?.

“What you believe in can only be defined by what you’re willing to risk for it." - Stuart Scheller.

HEDGE YOUR CRISIS.

Never get in bed with a woman whose problems are worse than yours. - Chicago PD.

PROBLEM SOLVED.

'The best way to keep peace is to be ready to destroy evil. If you Pearl Harbor me, I Nagasaki you.' - Ted Nugent.

OUR SHARED HUMANITY.

Empathy is at the heart of who we are as human beings. - Cardinal Matthew Kukah.

WORDS ON MARBLE.

"Birth is agony. Life is hard. Death is cruel." - Japanese pithy.

REPENT OR PERISH - POPE.

Homosexuality is a sin. It is not ordained by God, therefore same sex marriage cannot be blessed by the church - Pope Francis.

CANCEL CULTURE IS CORROSIVE.


FOR SAKE OF COUNTRY.


MAGA LIVES ON: NO RETREAT, NO SURRENDER!

TWITTER IS BORING WITHOUT HIS TWEETS. #RestorePresidentTrump'sTwitterHandle.


WORD.

"If you cannot speak the truth when it matters, then nothing else you says matters.” - Tucker Carlson.

#MeToo MOVEMENT: A BAD NEWS GONE CRAZY.

"To all the women who testified, we may have different truth, but I have a great remorse for all of you. I have great remorse for all of the men and women going through this crisis right now in our country. You know, the movement started basically with me, and I think what happened, you know, I was the first example, and now there are thousands of men who are being accused and a regeneration of things that I think none of us understood. I’m not going to say these aren’t great people. I had wonderful times with these people. I’m just genuinely confused. Men are confused about this issue. We are going through this #MeToo movement crisis right now in this country." - Harvey Weinstein.


RON DELLUMS: UNAPOLOGETICALLY RADICAL.

"If it’s radical to oppose the insanity and cruelty of the Vietnam War, if it’s radical to oppose racism and sexism and all other forms of oppression, if it’s radical to want to alleviate poverty, hunger, disease, homelessness, and other forms of human misery, then I’m proud to be called a radical.” - Ron Vernie Dellums.


WHAT REALLY MATTERS IN LIFE - STEVE JOBS

“I reached the pinnacle of success in the business world. In others’ eyes, my life is an epitome of success. However, aside from work, I have little joy. Non-stop pursuing of wealth will only turn a person into a twisted being, just like me. God gave us the senses to let us feel the love in everyone’s heart, not the illusions brought about by wealth. Memories precipitated by love is the only true riches which will follow you, accompany you, giving you strength and light to go on. The most expensive bed in the world is the sick bed. You can employ someone to drive the car for you, make money for you but you cannot have someone to bear sickness for you. Material things lost can be found. But there is one thing that can never be found when it is lost – Life. Treasure Love for your family, love for your spouse, love for your friends. Treat yourself well. Cherish others.” - SJ

EVIL CANNOT BE TRULY DESTROYED.

"The threat of evil is ever present. We can contain it as long as we stay vigilant, but it can never truly be destroyed. - Lorraine Warren (Annabelle, the movie)


ONLY THE POOR WISH THEY HAD STUFF?

“I’m not that interested in material things. As long as I find a good bed that I can sleep in, that’s enough.” - Nicolas Berggruem, the homeless billionaire.

Tuesday, May 12, 2015

NORTH KOREA DEFENSE CHIEF, EXECUTED FOR PUBLIC SLEEPING?

Icheoku says peradventure Nigeria's Secretary to the Government of the Federation, Pius Anyim, is indeed lucky to be living in Nigerian and not in North Korea; otherwise the notoriously sleepy government senior official would have since been gone, obliterated with an anti-aircraft missile because of his sleepiness? That was the fate suffered by North Korea's defense minister, Hyon Yong-Choi, who was executed for "disrespectfully" sleeping in an event wherein the North Korea leader Kim Jong Un attended. Icheoku says to all those Nigerians who do not cherish the freedom festooned on the country by the outgoing President Goodluck Jonathan, may be they should  consider relocating to Pyongyang so that they can have a taste of what living in a gulag really is like. Imagine executing such a high level government official simply for falling asleep while the leader spoke? 

Thankfully Icheoku understands what living freely feels like and does not joke with it; hence sympathizes with the remaining officials and people under chains in North Korea for the fate which befell them when this bloody-thirsty mongrel ascended to power. A lunatic midget, suffering the Bonaparte syndrome and who is now finding so much fun in killing his own people, including government officials, one official at a time, every week. Worse still, officials cannot and are not allowed to even resign if they wanted and must hang in there until it is their turn to face the music. Recall that the leader had previously fed his own uncle Jang Song Thaek to a pack of starving wild dogs, which tore him to pieces and ate him for dinner, simply for alleged disloyalty and planned overthrow of his government. And when his auntie, the devoured uncle's wife, Kim Kyong Hu complained, he had her tea laced with cyanide and summarily dispatched her to go join her late husband. 

Icheoku says when Nigerians thought that they saw it all with IBB cruelty and believed that the evil genius Ibrahim Babangida was too maniacal for killing Gideon Orkar and fellow coup plotters with sticks of dynamite; this North Korean leader appears to have outdone IBB by using an anti-aircraft missile to completely obliterate an ordinary human being in this manner. What a country under chains, with a very bloody beast as its leader; a leader who is now devouring his own people and in this twenty first century world while a stupefied world stands by and helplessly watches. Indeed, very pitiful.

Monday, May 11, 2015

TEMITOPE ADEBAMIRO, ANOTHER NIGERIAN WIFE KILLS HER HUSBAND IN USA?

Icheoku says it has happened again, the continuing shedding of spousal blood by Nigerians living in the United States of America. This time, in Vice President Joe Biden's home state of Delaware, a Nigerian wife and mother of two, stabbed her sleeping Nigerian husband to death; using a kitchen knife,  severing his carotid artery and jugular vein. According to the story, the couple were having a long-running domestic dispute, which led to the husband moving out of the couple's master's bedroom upstairs and moved into the visitor's spare bedroom downstairs, where he has been sleeping alone for quite some time. On this faithful night, following another episode of their now regular nightly fights, the husband retired for the evening in his new sleeping quarters; but unbeknownst to him, his wife was not finished just yet with him. While the traumatized and frightened husband was sleeping, his death-merchant wife from hell kneed open his locked door open and savagely stabbed the husband to death. The husband bled like the fountain of Pompeii and Julius Caesar to his death, while the wife waited before calling 911. 

Temitope Adebamiro, 35 years old Yoruba Nigerian killed her husband Adeyinka Adebamiro, 37 years old, also Yoruba Nigerian on April 27, 2015. The couple have two children. The wife from hell has been indicted for first degree murder and if convicted, faces a death penalty or an automatic sentence of life imprisonment without the possibility of parole or any type of early release. This means that barring any attenuating circumstances to mitigate the charge or in some way exculpate the accused and save her from being convicted, her life as she knows it is finished and over. It is either she is executed or she dies in prison, but there is no middle ground of her ever walking free again. 

Icheoku rejects as pathetic, the necessary implication from her statements so far, that her husband's abuse and cheating forced her hand because she had the option of walking away, including divorcing him. But she didn't; instead, she meticulously planned his death and then waylaid him while asleep and viciously carved him up, slitting his throat to ensure that he died; and then waited until he bled out before calling 911. The sleeping husband never had a fighting chance but was brutally murdered in cold blood while in in dreamland, probably dreaming about a beautiful reconciliation with his estranged wife now turned husband killer-wife? His dream that the demon which possessed his wife would let go and set her free turned into his worst nightmare from which he never had a break or escape by waking up. The man is now dead, killed with a kitchen knife, by a very wicked killer-wife, whom he ushered into his home in marriage and whom he had planned to spend the rest of his life with. Worse still, the couple come from Yoruba Southwestern Nigeria, where culturally, men are allowed to indulge themselves and often times could even take extra wives, if they so desire. So what otherwise is this Jezebel arguing, assuming her late husband indeed cheated on her? Is taking his life and in this very violent manner her most viable option in the circumstance?

Icheoku is emphatic that this is not a case where provocation will come readily or handy to the aid of this husband-killer. She had a long cooling time of over six months since the alleged cheating took place and several years since the alleged abuse took place, when she was pregnant, so what is she talking about now? Icheoku says it does not even help her case that she is a very poor liar, who has told several versions of the event leading to her husband being killed; and such a lying scumbag does not usually receive favorable disposition of the jury. Imagine a venerate liar, forgetting that she lives in the United States of America and not Nigeria, where chronic NEPA (PHCN) problem had persisted, lying about a power outage in their home during the murder of her husband? But unfortunately, for her, she forgot that there is something called records and that computers track such power outages and there was none shown contemporaneous to the time of the murder or any other time around it, either before or soon after around their neighborhood. 

Anyway, Icheoku has nothing to add at this time, but laments the near total collapse of family structures among Nigerians in diaspora by reason of obnoxious spouses who have forgotten the culture that raised them and instead are emulating white peoples dysfunctional family units, leading to all these heinous spousal killings. Please Nigerians, enough of these spousal killings as it is alien to the culture from which you came. May the soul of Adeyinka Adebamiro now rest and may the killer-wife receive the justice which she denied her husband. Nothing ever justifies taking the laws into anyone's hand especially when such leads to the taking of another's life. What a shame to motherhood; what a shame to wifehood and what a shame to Nigerians in Diaspora. It is sad and sadder that it is becoming more recurrent and more vicious. As at today, Icheoku has recorded about one hundred of such killing by Nigerian spouses of their spouses. What a shame.

Sunday, May 10, 2015

LOST ELECTION 2015, PDP NEEDS TO MAN UP AND QUIT WHINING.

Icheoku has listened to the so many cry-baby tantrums being thrown around by the PDP over their loss of the presidency, in particular, in the last election. Some of them even pointed accusing fingers at the First Lady Dame Patience as well as Ekiti State's Governor Fayose and campaign spokesman Femi Fani Kayode as the reason why the North voted for Buhari instead of their candidate Jonathan? Some of them are also blaming their party Chairman Adamu Mu'azu as the culprit, who allegedly sold the party's chances to the APC; while many others are blaming the overall lackluster manner the campaign of the president was prosecuted. Icheoku says regardless, none of these by themselves, individually or even collectively, would have saved the day and thwarted the change that took place. 

Whatever Dame Patience said or did not say about Muhammadu Buhari being brain-dead or that the North are not taking care of their children like the South do, resulting to the plague that is almajiris infestation in their region, did not cost her husband, President Jonathan, a single vote; and neither did Governor Fayose and Femi Fani Kayode feistiness and energetic campaign took any votes away from the president. Similarly too, PDP Chairman Mu'Azu could not have sold a whole political party or their voting public to the APC as this is not only impossible but practically untenable. Icheoku demurs that whatever any of these people did or said was not enough nor sufficient to and did not change any voter's mind in the election. It is Nigeria, and voting patterns as well as political alignments are very peculiar and not easily persuaded otherwise by campaign talks. Icheoku maintains that practically every voter in Nigeria had his or her mind made up long time ago and before the election campaigns fully started. The reelection bid was therefore lost a very long time ago, as Icheoku will soon publish; so whatever excuses or blame game being played now is but the proverbial drowning man catching straws or rather drowned man with clutched straws sill in his rigor-mortised fingers.

The fact of the matter is that Nigerians bought into the thundering campaign for change and went for change and voted for change. As Emir of Kano Muhammadu Sanusi II succinctly encapsulated, the mood in the country was for change and change took place, period. Change was in the air and it saturated the air; and every discerning observer, especially those without a dog in the fight, saw it coming - an inevitable and it came to pass as expected. Admitted that certain things that could have been done to starve it off were not done or the party failed to recognize them as necessary until it was already too late. 

Few days ago, Icheoku read the take of Abubakar Tsav on the last election vAccording to Mr Abubakar Tsav, Nigerians did not vote particularly for the APC but voted for Muhammadu Buhari. Continuing, he said that the APC would have not won but would have been resoundingly defeated by the PDP had they fielded another candidate other than Muhammadu Buhari. Icheoku agrees that it was a special kind of symbiotic relationship victory where the monk somehow made the hood and the hood also helped to identify the monk. It was a case where all the good winds came together to help the sail. But overall, as Tsav posited, it is arguable that without Muhammadu Buhari flying the APC presidential flag, the APC might not have been successful at the polls. But then, if that were the case, why did the same Muhammadu Buhari not successful in his other three previous presidential runs one might equally argue? So the more plausible argument seem to be that all the constellation came together in agreement that Muhammadu Buhari will be the symbol of the change Nigerians craved for and got and now waiting fervently for its abundant promises to become fulfilled. The tenacity of Ashiwaju Bola Tinubu as well as other conspiracies that came together to achieve their purpose, including the uncommon sacrifice of the God-fearing President Jonathan, who did not want to shed the blood of any Nigerian over an election, all played their respective roles in ushering in a President-elect Muhammadu Buhari. But for this lining up of the ducks, there would have been no President-elect Muhammadu Buhari waiting to be sworn in on May 29 or worse still, no Nigeria still standing as a country? 

Icheoku agrees that while the Buhari factor played a pivotal role in the election outcome, but the sacrifice of President Jonathan was most important and soars above all or any other contributing factor. The president, for the good of greater Nigeria, willingly ponied up his second term presidency as no other president, including the Ota deity, would have readily done. Baba Iyabo for instance would  have rather the country went down in flames than give up such a chance at his second term. Ditto Ibrahim Babangida and Sani Abacha who summarily executed people for allegedly planning coup to subvert and remove them from power? Icheoku is emphatic that never in the history of Nigeria has JFK's plea to Americans, " think not what your country can do for you but what you can do for your country" resonated as a great truism than in the sacrificed second term presidency by President Jonathan. Icheoku strongly believes that someday, may be in no distant future, Nigerians will come around to show their gratitude and be thankful as well as appreciative of the magnanimity of President Jonathan that saw to Nigeria being more peaceful today than it was in the months leading up to the election. It is called sacrifice and it is a selfless act, akin to Jesus Christ's laying down his life on the cross that mankind might be saved from eternal damnation. President Jonathan saved Nigeria.

So, aligning self with Abubakar Tsav, Icheoku calls on the PDP to not despair so much or plunge themselves into a comatose shock as David Mark observed, but to see the shift in power as necessitated by series of events beyond anyone's single control. Their loss of the presidency will not be the first time ever in recorded history where a political party lost the presidency. America's Democratic Party's Jimmy Carter did in 1980 and so also was Republican Party's Bush Snr in 1992 and closer home in Ghana in 2008 when New Patriotic Party's Nana Akuffor-Addo lost to National Democratic Congress's Attah Mills. Even in Mexico in 2000 where the Institutional Revolutionary Party (PRI) achieved and surpassed the PDP's dream of ruling for sixty years, with their seventy one year reign, a time once also came for them to be out of power and they were voted out. It all goes to show that every dynasty has a life span and never lasts forever; and so is now the PDP of Nigeria voted out of power in 2015 after a sixteen years uninterrupted hold unto power. 

What happened was meant to happen and it happened as was destined. The PDP members must now accept their fate of being the new opposition party and then move on along that line. The good news however is that because  Muhammadu Buhari was the "it-factor" in this election, without whom the APC would not have "won' the election, the chances of the PDP rebounding back shortly is very bright. So once Muhammadu Buhari is no longer in the picture, either by completing his term/s in office or is called back home by his maker, which ever one comes first, a well repositioned PDP can easily bounce back to power, bigger, better and even badder. So Icheoku says to PDP to please stop all these whining and lamentations of Gomorrah and blame game going around. The PDP members should stop this frantic running around like a headless chicken and as if the world has come to an end, in their vain effort to explain away what happened. It was nobody's fault and rather everybody's fault. Instead, the PDP should start reorganizing and strategizing for their future and that future could be as so near as 2019. Salute!

Saturday, May 9, 2015

TELEPHONE NUMBER 647.360.4442, BEWARE OF INDIAN SCAMMERS!

Icheoku says the Indians are back and this time instead of the IRS scam are busy hijacking Safari (Mac Internet) and will force you to call this number 647.360.4442 and then remotely take over your computer until they fleece you of information including password, bank accounts, your online shopping pattern etc. If your computer is similarly hijacked or frozen, do not panic, just force quit Safari and thereafter, holding down the shift key, click on Safari icon below and you will be back up and running again. But please this is their latest scam as the curry people are now up to no good with their knowledge of the virtual world. The telephone number is traceable to Ontario Canada but is possibly out of Banglore, India using a reverse calling feature that pings it in Canada. Icheoku was a victim for some minutes before sensing danger and then plugging all systems out of power main; then googled the number only to see that they have been flagged as bad for you. BEWARE THE INDIANS ARE HERE TO SCAM YOU.

Friday, May 8, 2015

OBASANJO'S MISTRESS COMES CLEAN, SAYS 'WE ARE DOING MONEY LAUNDERING TOO?'

Icheoku says while the UGLY Oby Ezekwesili was busy defending her sugar daddy cum biological father (incestuous) of corruption, his other woman has gone to town with story of her escapades with the Ota deity. According to Anne Welsh, she did so many bad things with Baba Iyabo and your guess is as good as Icheoku's as to the necessary innuendo that got her making 900,000 dollars commission off just one transaction facilitated by their relationship. In her own words, Anne Welsh said of her relationship with Obasanjo "We did so much secret things together". So now go figure!

Thursday, May 7, 2015

"WE DID SO MUCH SECRET THINGS TOGETHER" - ANNE WELSH.

'WE DID SO MUCH SECRET THINGS TOGETHER' - ANNE WELSHIcheoku says it appears that Baba Iyabo does not consider or see money laundering as corruption, otherwise why does he always say that he is not corrupt when he is involved in this large scale of money laundering operations? May be he is in denial but the whole world see differently and they see a very corrupt man, Olusegun Obasanjo. Now his chief money laundering officer and mistress, Anne Welsh, has come clean and let the cat out of the bag, saying that she and Obasanjo did a lot of secret bad things together? So Olusegun Obasanjo, Icheoku asks, what are those secret things you did with Anne Welsh?

Wednesday, May 6, 2015

THE BALTIMORE SIX KILLER-COPS, CHARGED.

THE BALTIMORE SIX KILLER COPS? 

Icheoku says behold the six police officers now indicted for the killing of Freddie Gray. Pictured are Officer Caesar R. Goodson Jr., Officer Edward M. Nero, Officer Garrett E Miller (top L-R), Officer William G. Porter, Lt. Brian W. Rice, Sgt. Alicia D. White (bottom L-R). Icheoku says hopefully, they might, if convicted, be made an example of and serve as the beginning of the end of police brutality in America. A matter made worse because some of them are even black Americans and have no scruples victimizing one of their own. What two Uncle Toms and one Auntie Sarah of the Baltimore police department these African American cops are that helped dispatch one of their kind to the great beyond. What a shame!

Monday, May 4, 2015

CHARLOTTE ELIZABETH DIANA, WHAT IS IN A NAME?

Icheoku says not when it saved the day and prevented the proverbial cat fight that would have seen three opposing interests clawing themselves bloody in their attempt to keep their names in the fore. There is Princess Kate Middleton who wanted a name to reflect her family through a sister named Charlotte; there is Prince William who wanted a name to reflect his own late mother Princess Di and of course the matriarch of the family and Queen of England, Elizabeth, the queen who must be obeyed and who wanted her great grand daughter to carry the torch of her name. Brilliantly, a clever way of accommodating these disparate interests was devised, hence a three names bearing princess and the future Queen of England, the fourth in the line of succession. Icheoku wonders if Camille made a fuss about adding her own name to her step grand daughter' many names too? Anyway, all hail to Princess Charlotte Elizabeth Diana, the latest addition to the family of Prince William and Duchess Kate. May the princess and future possible queen of England live long and thrive, now you know why names matter. 

TERROR STRIKES TEXAS, WHEN THE TWO SEAS ARE NOT ENOUGH?

Icheoku says the sea to the shinning sea did not once again provide buffer to America as two terrorists struck in Texas, although unsuccessfully. But unfortunately for both terrorists, they messed with a wrong state and only if they had heard the phrase 'don't mess with Texan.' Both munchkins were dispatched on a speedy express to go meet with their seventy virgins by a watchful marksman and for this bravery, the untold terror they had planned was nipped in the bud, with them being the only casualty of the attack. It appears that both seas protects only against terror from overseas but never home-grown domestic terrorism or one carried out internally such as Osama Bin Laden's World Trades Center's 9/11 attack, Timothy McVeigh's Oklahoma City bombing as well as this Garland's free speech event attack. However, Icheoku says thank you officer for saving the day and again for denying these animals another recruiting propaganda tool. Imagine what would have happened had they succeeded in muzzling free speech right inside here in America, the bastion of free speech? Luckily they were no match to the skills of the highly trained traffic officer who put a stop to their maniacal escapade. 

Terrorists Elton Simpson and Nadir Soofi (first and second respectively pictured below) tried storming a free speech event organized by Pam Geller, featuring Islamic Prophet Mohammed cartoons, inside Curtis Culwell Center in Garland Texas, a suburb of Dallas. They were dressed in armored, armed with assault rifles and explosives but were stopped cold from reaching their target by an eagle-eyed off duty officer moonlighting as a guard. There is no authoritative information however whether their main target was the wider audience or a Dutch politician, Geert Wilders, already on Al Queida most wanted list of infidels who was billed to speak at the event. But thankfully, it ended well as the two anarchists became the only victims of their own device. Icheoku says how does anyone protect against an enemy within their midst but through prayers and eternal vigilance. 

With the terror in Texas, vigilance now becomes more heightened since many of these terrorists are already here, simply laying low and waiting for the appropriate time to crawl out of their terror-planning holes to cause mayhem. Icheoku says to these fanatics, why not let your prophet Mohammed fight his own battles, if he cares; afterall Jesus Christ as well as Buddha and other gods and goddesses of African traditional religions are always written about all the time without such incendiary reaction from their faithfuls. So why must it be only Muslims that must kill and maim people just because their prophet was talked about? Icheoku says these people need to wake up and realize that this is now twenty first century and not the last millennium or those ancient times when fables are told to timid souls, who believing same, go about fighting stupid wars based on faith. Icheoku borrowing Rodney King's words, says, please can we all just get along, religion or no religion!
Nadir Soofi

Sunday, May 3, 2015

BOXING BATTLE OF SUPREMACY, MAYWEATHER WINS.

Icheoku says the fight billed as the baddest and most expensive is now decided and the winner is Floyd Mayweather with unanimous decision after twelve rounds, dueling with Manny Pacquiao. Icheoku says congratulations.


AMERICAN PHAROAH WINS DERBY.

Icheoku says while mummified Egyptian Pharaohs were dozing off inside their pyramids from which they will never wake up to do anything meaningful, their American namesake just won the Kentucky derby. American Pharaoh wearing tag number 18 and jockeyed by Victor Espinoza finished first in the 141st edition of the Kentucky derby at Churchill Downs in Louisville Kentucky. Amidst pomp and pageantry of over-sized hat wearing ladies and cigar-chomping men in bow ties, the horse which came from the stable of Bob Baffert, galloped to victory and into history book. Icheoku says congratulations. 

Saturday, May 2, 2015

WHAT MEN WANT FROM WOMEN - E.C. SAMUEL

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“AND they called Rebekah, and said unto her, wilt thou go with this man? And she said, I will go” (Genesis 24 verse 58).

Men and women are more alike than different. They share an almost identical brain structure, similar needs for achievement and connection and generally want the same things out of life. The differences are in nuances and although important, should not be used to regulate men to some far removed distance space in the universe. What our culture values, as masculinity, is trapping. This includes being in control of one’s emotions, winning at all costs and not showing vulnerability. Men who are not the way society thinks they should be are often stigmatise and may be viewed by others as ‘feminine’ in some vague way.
We have noticed that men who feel they must rigidly conform to masculine gender norms are more likely to suppress emotions that make them feel vulnerable. But what we term ‘vulnerable’ are the very emotions required for a romantic intimacy with a partner or spouse. Most women will say, “You are a man,” trying to reinforce the very gender conditioning that pushes men away. Some of these women even dictate roles for men or assume they know how a man should be. Mostly, these straitjacket principles make men seek comfort and reality elsewhere. What really do our men want from their women? May I can speak for a few men.

(1) He wants you to like him and love him for himself and not just what he does for you. Men like it when they are loved. The way men are socialized at all times makes them feel that their value is in their agency- that is, in their ability to act, take charge, control, win and achieve. If he doesn’t do that, he would be termed a ‘sissy’ and scorned. Do not let this superficial part of him mislead you. Underneath this conditioning is a child who he is. He really wants someone who can be okay with him when he is not winning, producing or ‘on top.’ Keep that in mind when you relate with your man.

(2) He wants you to like yourself. If you are using him to feel okay about yourself, it will never be enough, and you will constantly be in charge of the next boost. More so, men like it when a woman feels emotionally strong and capable. It is okay to be jealous, but never act insecure.

(3) Believe his ability to communicate, and try to understand his language There is a way a man uses word… Just know where he is coming from. Don’t force him.
(4) He wants you to be playful. Let go of control. Be spontaneous, joyous, and fun to be with. Don’t be too serious about everything. Engage him without agendas. Let him feel like a high school lover. Men like to feel that.

(5) Men like to be respected. It is not true that all men are control freaks or domineering. On the contrary, most men listen to their wives. But you earn your husband’s respect when you respect him, especially when you are self-sufficient, but still let him feel as the anchor. He may say he doesn’t want you to bother him, but something inside feels secure when you tell him things before you do them or report events to him.

(6) Men like it when you understand them. Men flirt. Men make many decisions sometimes. They are not like women with special instincts. Yet, don’t let the man feel you are controlling him. When he makes a blunder, get angry, but understand. Men cannot stand nagging. Find other ways of expressing your dissatisfaction without a plan for revenge or violence. Let him feel the guilt, without you pressing it.

(7) He wants you to know that boys do cry. Men are given much shame in our culture for being vulnerable that they are often left with one choice to vent negative feelings-anger. Offer him that one place in the world where he can unconditionally bring his full self to the table and where you don’t judge. Don’t talk him out of his fears or upsets; just offer compassion and understanding. Love his shame away.

THE BIG FIGHT IS FINALLY HERE - MAYWEATHER V. PACQUIAO

THE BIG FIGHT IS HERE - MAYWEATHER V. PACQUIAO










Icheoku says may the better fighter win provided they give fans a worth for their money and long time waiting for this fight to eventually materialize.

Friday, May 1, 2015

CALLING BALTIMORE PROTESTERS THUGS, DISRESPECTFULLY VERY WRONG?

Icheoku says Terrence Howard once told his ex-wife, Michelle Ghent, "divorce me and do what you wish with me but please do not crush my families' already threatened livelihood. I can’t promise how I will respond if you do." In order words, please don't go there with my family's very survival because if you do, I don't know how I am going to react? It therefore goes without saying that every human-being  has a threshold of endurance and limits as to what is acceptable or tolerable, beyond which there is no guarantee of still remaining sanely cool faced with a continuing situation or circumstance. 

So why does America continuously push the buttons of these despondent black America youths, expecting them to always react with level-headiness and their minds still intact or as a monk would docilely react? If America does not want the nature of the reaction coming from these irate youths, is it not a better policy going forward, not to promote the circumstances that elicits or triggers this reaction?  Why set a ball in motion only to later complain that the ball is rolling too fast? Why start the act that begets or elicits such loathsome reaction and then turn around to complain that the effected is overreacting; because if there was no action in the first place there will be no reaction, talkless of it being over or too much. How can anyone blame a provoked people for some unintended consequences of what was forced upon them and at the same time excluding the police that started it from any blame? A police who acted under the color of their uniform in fermenting all manner of unwanted and unwarranted killings of unarmed young American males? Why expect these young African Americans not to react but to just turn the other chic, sit down and take it? 

Why would President Obama open his mouth and use it in this way and against a people, whose fate he once shared and whose challenges he once faced while running the streets of South-side Chicago just a few short decades ago? Why would President Obama not appreciate the sensitivity implicated in the Baltimore protest, not to have used such derogatory remarks in describing a people who were pushed to the wall and who are merely intending for their voices to be heard by a seeming deaf white society America that acts as if black life don't matter? Why throw the protesters under the bus while sparing the police brutality that caused the harm, the reason de'tre for the protest? Icheoku asks why, President Obama, why?

Icheoku asks if people who were merely drawing attention to the continuing plight of young African Americans, whose lives are being continuously cut down in this drastic manner and without consequence, are 'thugs and criminals', what then are those who caused the problem which these people are protesting against? Icheoku asks if people who merely destroyed some replaceable properties are 'thugs and criminals', what then are those police officers who destroyed an irreplaceable innocent human life? Should they be called murderers and would the president be courageous enough to mouth same accordingly? Except that Icheoku forgot that the same President Obama was once forced to make a mea culpa and organize a beer fest of appeasement of a Boston police officer, whom he called "stupid" for exactly doing a very stupid thing, arresting Professor Gates in his home just because he mistook him for a burglar, being a black-man in the particular neighborhood?  

But now, because there is no group to pile pressure on the president over the foul word he used in describing those Baltimore protesters, whom he thoughtlessly branded 'thugs and criminals', there may never be an apology or a beer party in the White House gardens to smoothen these ruffled feathers? Icheoku says calling people who were merely trying to draw attention to some existential threat and predicament to them in America, being young black men in America, thugs and criminals, is to say the least very demeaning? To President Barack Hussein Obama, Icheoku says not in our name. Please find a place and time to similarly organize this time, a barbecue summit of appeasement, to atone for your sin of derogating these young men and women of Baltimore. These protesters are not 'thugs and criminals' but courageous young Americans who are merely fed up and frustrated at the continuum that is police raging brutality against them and were trying to merely vent their anger.  Therefore, an apology will be in order and the appropriate thing to do; at least you owe them that, so make it.

Thursday, April 30, 2015

INDONESIA EXECUTES DRUG PEDDLERS, A LAW ENFORCEMENT ACTION?

Icheoku says it is not an extraordinarily cruel and unusual punishment; and provided such offenders were aware of existing laws prohibiting the conduct prior to the commission of the offense, if convicted, such criminals should be made to face prescribed penalty. The execution of those convicted drug offenders by Indonesia therefore did not breach any known laws and should be seen as purely a law enforcement action that should be respected by any law abiding society as well as their political leaders. Icheoku says the threat by Australian Prime Minister to recall his country's ambassador to Indonesia is therefore uncalled for and a rash action without any merit whatsoever. If the Prime Minister is so incensed because of the carrying out of a lawful judicial process, which was fully litigated or rather prosecuted, with various tiers of appeals duly observed and completed, what message is he sending to the underworld drug dealers, that it is okay to deal in illegal drugs and destroy another country's society just for profit motive? 

Icheoku says this is not a case where a holier than thou higher moral grounds will suffice as the  irate Prime Minister should have preached to his country men not to peddle their nefarious illegal drug trade in Indonesia, fully aware of the existing prescribed death penalty against such offense. Icheoku says what went down in Indonesia today is not comparable to the Nigeria case under then Muhammadu Buhari in 1984 when he  murdered three innocent Nigerians using a retroactive decree. Then, there was no death penalty for drug peddling on the books in Nigeria so the three Nigerians killed were not possessed with the necessarily mens rea that their action would lead to their death.  They could have stayed away as one of them confessed that if only he knew it would result to his death, he would not have engaged in the illicit trade. 

Icheoku  agrees that if anyone knowingly breaks the law,  he should face prescribed penalties including death if already preexisting the offense and vividly on the books. Icheoku also supports law enforcement of any country, especially one geared towards protecting its society from such a purely economic and financial gains crimes as drug dealing; which destroys the fabric of societies rendering many citizens hopelessly dependent addicts which in turn drastically impacts the society overall. Provided due process was strictly followed and such laws applied across the board and not selectively applied, depending on who infractured the law, it is okay and should serve as a deterrent. So what if two Australians were among those nine executed drug peddlers as they are not better or of more value than the others including those four Nigerians.  They committed a death penalty offense, they were convicted, they exhausted their rights of appeal and clemency petition and therefore should face the consequence of their action. 

But the funny thing is that the same Australia that is now throwing tantrums over its two drug dealing citizens, looks the other way without an outcry when countries like Saudi Arabia chops off peoples heads on any given Friday or China puts their own death penalty offenders to death or even America's States especially Texas, sends its own convicts to the death chambers. So what is different now or is it because it is Indonesia and they felt like they can intimidate and bully them around? Colombian Pablo Escobar was executed for drug offences, admitted his was even without trial or due process; and similarly have so many other drug dealers perished in the war against drugs particularly in Mexico. So what is the Australian Prime Minister suggesting or that Australians are too special a people to be put to death for violating another country's death penalty law.  Good enough the government in Jarkata was not easily intimidate nor caved in to the likes of Australian and the rest is now but history, having put to death those drug peddlers including two Australians, one French, four Nigerians, one Indonesian and one Brazilian. Icheoku says with four Nigerians among the executed, pundits are seriously now wondering whether Nigeria has effectively become a narco state? This conjures Bola Tinubu and Buruji Kashamu's alleged drug dealing as Icheoku wonders whether they would have lived to become a leading political player and an elected senator of the federal Republic respectively had they pried their trade in Indonesia. 

Wednesday, April 29, 2015

BALTIMORE MOTHER TOYA GRAHAM, NOT A CARING MOTHER?

Icheoku says if married to this Baltimore woman, would divorce her on grounds of her classless public display of child abuse, assault and battery; and will also urge her immediate arrest and prosecution. Query, if she doesn't want her son to be a Freddie Gray, did Freddie Gray's mother desire the fate suffered by her son due to no apparent fault of his but a result of brutish police who broke his spinal cord leading to his slow painful death. What indeed is this woman telling the world that Freddie Gray in any way caused his own death in the hands of the Baltimore police? Would this woman, similarly situated and grieving for the loss of her son like Freddie Gray's mother, not desire other people to stand up for her deceased son? If yes, why prevent her own son from standing up for another woman's cop-killed Freddie Gray? 

Icheoku bemoans this is not how to protect a child from harm as charity begins and should begin from home. If only she did her homework, instructing her son in the best behavioral manners, may be her son would have known how best to protest and without the need of allegedly hauling anything at a panicky police. But no, here is a failed woman, who failed in her job as a good mother and who did not raise her son well enough to know better, publicly displaying the stuff she is made of? An abusive mother pummeling her defenseless son who respectfully did not respond in like manner. Icheoku is emphatic that Toya Graham's show of shame is condemnable as unbecoming of any mother, taking the laws into her hand and publicly assaulting and battering her son in this manner. A son who was merely participating in a peoples mass action, protesting the killing of a fellow human being and an African American young male, the new endangered species of America. 

It was not an ordinary smacking but a prosecutable battery offense and the Baltimore DA should look into hauling this woman in for prosecution. It is not her place to strike her son and repeatedly, regardless; and any decent mother would have rather cajoled her son out of the protest without the need to lawlessly punch him around in the head and against laws of battery and assault. Imagine the effant-terrible this woman is probably behind closed doors if she could put up this amount of shameful display publicly and without regards to the millions of eyes trained on her. Icheoku wonders whether such behavior possibly drove away the men in her life, including the baby daddy of the very unfortunate victim of her abuse, assault and battery. 

So what if he is her only son? So what if she does not want anything to happen to him and so what if he becomes another Freddie Gray or does she think her son is better than Freddie Gray? Did Freddie Gray's mother want what happened to him happen? Icheoku asks if not her son Michael, who else does this bitchy woman want to be "out there doing that?" If every woman and mother of a child in Baltimore had smacked down their son out of the protest, how else would the killing of Freddie Gray be put in the conscience of the world or America, admitted we are gradually going numb of such killings leading to their repeat occurrences and almost on a regular basis now. Who the heck does this Baltimore woman think she is or that her son's life is more valuable than all those young black Americans marching for all their brothers killed by police thus far including the latest victim Freddie Gray? A single mother of six children and you wonder how many baby-daddies she had and what happened to all of them and where they are possibly now? 

Toya Graham conveniently denounced the violence and vandalism, but cleverly forgot it was a reaction to an action? She also choose to forget denouncing the police for killing yet another innocent unarmed African American young man in her Baltimore? Did she not understand that her son Michael sees himself as another Freddie Gray waiting to happen and was merely proactively calling attention to that fact of consequence of every black young male in America; and also the continuing police brutality and killing of young African Americans in American cities? Icheoku says instead of 'shielding a sixteen year old young man in the house so that he wont go outside,' why did she not first consider not bringing him forth into an American society that its police needlessly and randomly kills African Americans young males? Since Toya Graham admittedly 'will not do that shielding for the rest of her life,' why is Toya Graham even trying now and not allow the boy to learn how to be a survivor in the street creed of atypical black American life? Why mess him up now shielding him, only for him to later turn into a sissy-man who cannot fend for himself in the absence of a very controlling mother who publicly smacked him around? 

Icheoku asks if this woman is this 'intolerant and everybody knows her as such,' is she therefore not a proper and fit candidate for an anger management class or even an outright institutionalized confinement for psychotic disorder, possible evaluation and treatment? If her son's first instinct upon sighting her was to take to the hills for his dear life, shouldn't this be enough grounds for the traumatized son to be removed from such abusive mother? Why should the city of Baltimore acting through their child protective services allow this intolerable degree of child abuse to continue and continuously allow this boy to remain in such an abusive home without a protective shelter somewhere, especially without a father at home to protect him from his mother's choleric behavior? Icheoku disagrees that this is how to 'take care of a child' as an abusive mother cannot and should never be allowed to hide under the canopy of caring for a child to subject such a child to this degree of physical abuse, assault and battery. 

Icheoku maintains that this woman of Baltimore deserves to be prosecuted for assault and battery instead of the unmerited praise some apologists are giving to her for her unlawful act. Worst still she did not give her son the option to come away from the protest before flying off in her fist of fury and pummeling him on the head. If not her son, who? What if it was her son Michael that was murdered by the police, would she not want other Michaels of Baltimore standing up for him? What if it was her son that had his spinal cord severed by the police and died a painful death as a result, would she rather his death is abandoned as inconsequential and/or a none issue  event? But as far as she is concerned, it will not be her son standing up for another woman's cop-killed son? Icheoku says publicly putting up such a show of shame is despicable and condemnable and should be so treated by all without making excuses as this woman deserves to be locked away for a vagrant abuse of her son. 

Icheoku says if Martin Luther King's mother had been in the way or Malcolm X mother had slapped him around in this fashion, possibly African Americans would still have remained one fifth human beings in America? But here is Toya Graham, enjoying achieved civil rights gains by other women's sons, but who would not stand seeing her own son contribute in some way to enshrining it? Toya Graham is enjoying the fruits of other women's sons activism but would want none of that of her own son? What a shame indeed it is when some people would not want to put their skin in the game but desires the benefits of a game, which brave and courageous African Americans played and which those Baltimore young men are fighting to consolidate today. As far as Icheoku is concerned, there is nothing wrong with Toya Graham's son Michael coming of age as a young man, participating in a protest march against a police that arbitrarily and continuously kills young African American as if their lives don't matter and without consequences whatsoever. To the bitchy woman of Baltimore, Toya Graham, that publicly put out this level of show of shame, abuse, assault and battery on her son and prevented him from participating in a worthy cause of protesting police brutality including hurt and death, Icheoku says SHAME ON YOU!

APC REBUKES BUHARI OVER AIT, SAYS 1984 IS SO YESTERDAY?

Icheoku congratulates the All Peoples Congress for rising up to the occasion  and overruling its president-elect Muhammadu Buhari in his unilateral decision to reintroduce his infamous Decree 4 through the backdoor. By repudiating the ban Muhammadu Buhari placed on AIT coverage of his affairs, the APC has once again reassured Nigerians that they are prepared to put their efferent-terrible president-elect Muhammadu Buhari on a leach and prevent him from reliving his draconian 1983 to 1985 rule over Nigerians. 

Many Nigerians had feared this would be the case with the elected Muhammadu Buhari, the self-acclaimed converted democrat but who suddenly had a memory lapse that democracy comes with unabridged freedoms including freedom of speech when he banned AIT from all its affairs. But luckily enough some men with balls are still enjoying the membership of the APC and had risen up to say, not in our name and not under our watch, would the much fought for freedom Nigerians are enjoying now for the past sixteen years be allowed to be stifled by a draconian tyrant masquerading as a converted democrat. Icheoku says such action by the APC gives Nigerians reason to believe that despite their fears of Muhammad Buhari, there will be some sheriff in town to checkmate his excesses. What a light of relief at the end of the dark tunnel this development is and every Nigerian should therefore commend the APC for this bold audacity to call their president-elect to order. Icheoku stands with AIT and also for freedom for Nigerians as well as their media! Long live freedom and long live freedom watchdogs.