DAPHINE CARUANA GALIZIA MURDER: UNACCEPTABLE.

DAPHINE CARUANA GALIZIA MURDER: UNACCEPTABLE

ICHEOKU says the European Union must not allow this barbarism to go unsolved or unanswered. A journalist blogger blown up in a car bomb because of her writings and in an European Union member country is simply unacceptable. As a result the authorities in Brussels must demand a thorough investigation or better still lead the effort to unravel the monsters behind her assassination and bring justice to them. Daphine Caruana Galizia's murder must be solved and cannot be allowed to become another statistic of journalists killed to suppress freedom of speech. May her soul remain restless and haunt her killers until they are served justice. Adieu Daph.


GLAD TO BE CARRIED TO FULL TERM.

GRATEFUL TO BE CARRIED FULL TERM

ICHEOKU says another lucky one that survived the abortionist's pincers from the over 360,000 unlucky ones that get flushed out each year. May God help us all have a better resolution about unwanted pregnancies.


IPOB NNAMDI KANU: A BRITISH CITIZEN ABDUCTED BY THE NIGERIAN GOVERNMENT!

IPOB NNAMDI KANU: A BRITISH CITIZEN ABDUCTED BY THE NIGERIAN GOVERNMENT!
ICHEOKU says he is a British citizen leading the effort to free the people of Biafra from the clutches of the feudalistic Fulani controlled Northern Nigeria. Now, he is missing following the raid of his country home by the Fulani Army of Northern Nigeria. ICHEOKU says President Muhammadu Buhari led Nigerian government sponsored abductions and murders is on the increase and you wonder what it will take the international community to call him to order.

JUST SAY NO TO KNEELING: IT IS UN-AMERICAN.

JUST SAY NO TO KNEELING: IT IS UN-AMERICAN.
ICHEOKU says from being disrespectful to the flag to being unappreciative of the services of the military to overall being anti America; NFL players must learn to check their political activism outside the stadiums. They must not kneel on our dime. ICHEOKU supports the president 1000% on this and hereby calls on every player to respect the sensibilities of the many differently opined fans who paid to watch a game and not to be made mad by their personal political agenda.

IPOB: NOT A TERRORIST ORGANIZATION - USA


“The United States Government is strongly committed to Nigeria’s unity. Important political and economic issues affecting the Nigerian people, such as the allocation of resources, are worthwhile topics for respectful debate in a democracy. Within the context of unity, we encourage all Nigerians to support a de-escalation of tensions and peaceful resolution of grievances. The Indigenous People of Biafra is not a terrorist organization under US law.” - Russell Brooks, United States of America.

BIAFRA CANNOT BE WISHED AWAY BY THE FULANI/HAUSAS

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ROCKET MAN; ON A SUICIDE MISSION.



"The United States has great strength and patience, but if it is forced to defend itself or its allies, we will have no choice but to totally destroy North Korea. Rocket Man is on a suicide mission for himself and for his regime. The United States is ready, willing and able, but hopefully this will not be necessary. That’s what the United Nations is all about; that’s what the United Nations is for. Let’s see how they do." - PDJT


DONATE TODAY TO HELP REBUILD LIVES!

DONATE TODAY TO HELP REBUILD LIVES!

ICHEOKU says the Red Cross does one heck of a good job going to the assistance of the needy; so in these times of great need, occasioned by so many hurricanes, flooding and earthquake, show that you really care, donate to help the victims rebuild their wrecked lives. Remember that the Almighty rewards a cheerful giver.

HILLARY CLINTON LOST THE ELECTION - CHARLES SCHUMER

HILLARY CLINTON LOST THE ELECTION - CHARLES SCHUMER

"When you lose to somebody who has a 40 percent popularity, you don’t blame other things — Comey, Russia — you blame yourself. So what did we do wrong? People didn’t know what we stood for, just that we were against Trump. And still believe that." - Senator Charles Schumer, Senior Senator from the State of New York and Democratic Minority Leader in the Senate. ICHEOKU says the statement spoke volume and it spoke for itself. Finally it seems the Democrats have finally turned the corner and are now ready to face up to their abysmal performance in the last presidential election by acknowledging that the American people indeed choose Trump over their Hillary Clinton. Thankfully, they will also now rest their "Russians Did It" cockamamie and find a message they can present to the people and for the good of the country.. Time to move the process forward is now as American people did not buy into the crap of a Russian collusion which they tried unsuccessfully to sell to them.

North Korea PUT ON NOTICE

NORTH KOREA  PUT ON NOTICE: DON'T PUSH ME.
"North Korea best not make any more threats to the United States. They will be met with fire and fury like the world has never seen. As I said, they will be met with the fire and fury and, frankly, power." - President Donald John Trump. ICHEOKU says the Michelin Tire midget at Pyongyang is definitely courting trouble and messing with the wrong man. He probably thinks Barack Obama the redline president is still in office; but unbeknownst to him there is a new sheriff in town and his name is Donald John Trump and he does not mess around. Hopefully China can rein in the little man before he commits mass suicide with his North Korean people.

NORTH KOREA: TOTAL ANNIHILATION NOW ON THE TABLE.

NORTH KOREA: TOTAL ANNIHILATION NOW ON THE TABLE.

ICHEOKU says once again the diminutive midget of Pyongyang has been advised to heed the resolution of the United Nations firm stand against his continuing provocations; and that the total wiping out of his North Korea is now an option should he force the hands of the United States of American military. In a statement by the Defense Secretary Jim Maddog Mattis over its latest nuclear test, the secretary said “Our commitment among the allies are ironclad. Any threat to the United States or its territories, including Guam, or our allies will be met with a massive military response, a response both effective and overwhelming. We are not looking to the total annihilation of a country, namely North Korea, but as I said, we have many options to do so.” ICHEOKU says does not really know the joker that guy has, but whatever it is will likely very soon be forced out. The world including ICHEOKU is waiting and watching.

BIAFRA EXIT FROM NIGERIA: A CALL TO DUTY

BIAFRA EXIT FROM NIGERIA: A CALL TO DUTY
ICHEOKU says the time has come and the time is now for the Indigenous Peoples of Biafra to be allowed to choose their self governance and exit from Nigeria going forward.. A referendum on the future of Biafra is a legitimate demand of the people and it is their right to so do. The people of the Nation of Biafra want to go their own way because of the hostilities from other member nations of Nigeria. Let the United Nations order a referendum and let the people decide their own Biafraexit.

PDJT ISSUES A VERDICT ON ISLAMIST TERRORISTS


"There can be no coexistence with this violence. There can be no tolerating it, no accepting it, no excusing it, and no ignoring it. Every time a terrorist murders an innocent person and falsely invokes the name of God, it should be an insult to every person of faith. Terrorists do not worship God; they worship death. If we do not act against this organized terror, then we know what will happen and what will be the end result. Terrorism's devastation of life will continue to spread, peaceful societies will become engulfed by violence, and the futures of many generations will be sadly squandered. If we do not stand in uniform condemnation of this killing, then not only will we be judged by our people, not only will we be judged by history, but we will be judged by God." - President Donald John Trump.


BBOB: BRING BACK OUR BIAFRA

ICHEOKU says it is worth fighting for, self determination and it is not a crime for a people to aspire for self governance. Indigenous Peoples of Biafra are marching forward and hopefully they will soon get to the promised land. Viva Biafra.
#BringBackOurBiafra.





"When two raging fires meet together, they do consume the thing that feeds their fury. Though little fire grows great with little wind, yet extreme gusts do blow out fire." - William Shakespeare, The Taming of the Shrew


WHAT REALLY MATTERS IN LIFE - STEVE JOBS

“I reached the pinnacle of success in the business world. In others’ eyes, my life is an epitome of success. However, aside from work, I have little joy. Non-stop pursuing of wealth will only turn a person into a twisted being, just like me. God gave us the senses to let us feel the love in everyone’s heart, not the illusions brought about by wealth. Memories precipitated by love is the only true riches which will follow you, accompany you, giving you strength and light to go on. The most expensive bed in the world is the sick bed. You can employ someone to drive the car for you, make money for you but you cannot have someone to bear sickness for you. Material things lost can be found. But there is one thing that can never be found when it is lost – Life. Treasure Love for your family, love for your spouse, love for your friends. Treat yourself well. Cherish others.” - SJ

EVIL CANNOT BE TRULY DESTROYED.

"The threat of evil is ever present. We can contain it as long as we stay vigilant, but it can never truly be destroyed. - Lorraine Warren (Annabelle, the movie)


ONLY THE POOR WISH THEY HAD STUFF?

“I’m not that interested in material things. As long as I find a good bed that I can sleep in, that’s enough.” - Nicolas Berggruem, the homeless billionaire.

Saturday, October 24, 2015

BOB MANUEL UDOKWU, FINDING A SPOUSE?

Icheoku recently read an article in a Nigerian Newspaper, wherein Bob Manuel Udokwu told of how he met his wife. According to his story, he was taking a walk one evening on campus, when he sighted his future wife and was particularly moved by her gait and strut. He stopped her, complimented her and after the initial pleasantries, they agreed to meet again and again; and before you could say jack, they were dating. 

Thereafter their story of boy meets girl took an air of its own and today they have celebrated fifteen years of a marital bliss. Icheoku says what a very romantic and  indeed beautiful story of how a couple met each other; needless to add that it did not take the pulling of a teeth before she said yes to his proposal. Marital  chemistry is usually such that it does not necessarily require too much of a convincing because when you see it the one, you always know and feel it too. Icheoku says congratulations to the Udokwus on their marriage anniversary and many more happy returns. What a lovely couple, telling a lovely story of how they first met and they appear to be happy too and are equally lovely to look at.

This little background is necessary as this article is about finding a spouse and why some people have been unlucky in that department thus far. These people seem to be looking at the wrong places and with over bloated expectations of who their ideal spouse is or should be? Icheoku admonishes that the first rule of the thumb in finding a spouse is to curb your (enthusiasm) expectations. Moderate your exaggerated wants and desires of what you want in a spouse or what you would otherwise consider an ideal spouse because the good Lord left those perfect tens in heaven when he made Adam and Eve to be earth's dwelling. There is no one single individual that will fit all the tabs and who would check all good in all the departments, meeting all and every set down criteria. 

So like an examination, where one does not have to necessarily ace it all or score 100% in order to pass, you should be prepared to accept certain percentile as a passing score and then treat same as a whole and complete passmark for a spouse. Just make a list of what are most important to you and if they are ten and your potential spouse has six of them, that should ordinarily suffice. But just in case you still wants one such all-rounder spouse anyway, then be prepared to wait till you rendezvous with God to ask him why he kept them in heaven. However before arriving at the departure hall, first be prepared to live and die a lonely agonizing life as a bachelor or spinster in the event marriage was important to you. But if you want someone to accompany you in this journey called life, then be prepared to cross-out some expectations in order to successfully find a matching companion. 

The best test for deciding on a spouse is to imagine him or her figuratively without any clothes or anything to his or her name, absolutely, totally and completely EMPTY and NAKED. If you can accept him or her as is, then dive in; but if it is the shirt on his back or the skirt covering her behind that enticed you, then back off as you are backing the wrong horse. He or she must be organically attracted to you and not because of collateral accessories surrounding the masquerade. There was a story about this princess who was so picky about a suitor that his father was practically giving up hope of ever betrothing her daughter to a husband. One day the tortoise got wind of her "am too much for any man" stance and prepared to trick her into matrimony. The tortoise went and borrowed heavily and with pomp and pageantry, came heralded to the king's palace seeking his daughter's hand in marriage. However, as soon as the tortoise brought home his princess-bride, all those lenders came and retrieved all their stuff and there started their martial problems. 

But if you are that female waiting for Dangote or President Buhari to come calling, remember that when Dame Patience met President Jonathan in the creeks of Niger Delta, little did she know that the shoeless kid from Otuoke would one day rise to become a president. Ditto did Michelle Obama not know what the future held for her when she met a fledgling Barack Obama who could not even afford to take her out to dinner. Bill Clinton and Hillary Clinton met similarly situated and stories abound of other successful couples who met as struggling stragglers. So, what Icheoku is saying is that in as much as having some stuff is good, but ladies, it is always a bummer when a man feels that it is his surroundings and not his personality that is your main allure. Likewise when ladies feel that it is their other stuff that primarily captured your interest. If they feel like they purchased you, they will treat you like their property because they reason that if you could take the bait, others might as well. Therefore, looking for happiness in marriage, look for that person who deeply cares for you, particularly for your happiness. Like with God's commandment to seek first the kingdom and all other things will be added to you, first find yourself a compatible loving spouse and miraculously other things that makes life livable will follow. 

A word of advise for all those ladies out there looking for a man and who waste their valuable time and resources in pentecostal churches seeking to find their miracle of a husband or paying nocturnal visits to babalawo shrines in search of that magical potion to snare a husband; Icheoku says, waste your time no more. It does not work and will never work as love is never forced nor compelled. Like with everything without a free will, the struggle for freedom will definitely someday ensue and it might be disastrous. The solution is simple - at anytime, just be yourself, remain who you, conduct and comport yourself 24/7 as you never know where your own Bob Manuel Udokwu might be watching from. 

Always be true to yourself and stop living a lie of being pretentious in a church while later throwing up your wide-side especially amongst your supposed friends. Unfortunately some of these your "friends" who know you better might have brothers, brother-inlaws and/or even their own husband's friends who might be looking for a wife but they would rather not recommend you to them. A rule of the thumb, if you are that good and your girlfriends, especially those who are married, know you are that good, why have they not recommended you to some of these single men within their circle? This is one huge mistake many women make, thinking that their wild-eyed drinking, snorting and whoring buddies are their best friends? Nope, they are not; otherwise they would have since hooked you but they don't want you too near to their circle.

Also many guys are smart enough to spot out such desperately seeking-husbands women in churches and quickly bolt away before they could be seized. It is ideally, a case of "a cunning woman die and a cunning man bury her" type of conundrum, where both the hunter and the hunted are both skillful at playing the game of hide and seek or catch me if you can?  It reminds Icheoku of a story of one such lady who went into a fake trance in a church one Sunday and prophesied that this particular guy, who she has been eyeing for a very long time, is her revealed husband. Unfortunately, this guy was also eyeing a different lady all together and told the 'possessed by spirit' lady that he will have to pray about it and get back to her during next Sunday's worship. 

On that Sunday, the guy told the girl that the Lord told him that he will reveal the final truth to him about her previous revelation during the worships' miracle hour. As soon as the hour of deliverance arrived, on a cue, the guy went into his own Version 2.0 trance and upon power of anointing overcoming him, started prophesying that the good Lord warned him to stay away from the lady in question; not to ever marry her because she is married to the water-spirit and any attempt to do otherwise would bring so much catastrophe, pain, anguish and tragedy to them both.  That they must break every bond between them including the thought of becoming a couple to avert an immediate death in the hands of kidnappers or even a hasty accident enroute their houses and the threat is real.  They later went to the pastor to share their "revelations", to which the pastor ruled that they should stay away from each other and for their good. 

Icheoku says instead of running from pillar to post in search of that elusive knight in shinning armor, ask yourself are you leading a double life? Is your behavior behind closed door the same as that which you exhibit outside? Would your church pastor vouch for your behavior as a classmate would and both find you a worthy companion? Does you church members know you as a none smoker but you smoke everything including joints and roaches with your evening friends?  Do you live a double life that compels people to say 'are we talking about the same person' or another person all together? A penny for your thought, because you don't know who is watching or might be interested, before everybody, day or night, in public or in private, in your character remain as constant as the northern star of which true fix there is no fellow in the firmament. Networking is still the surest way to scoring a spouse as no one will want to admit someone within their circle if their coming in will unravel the existing bond. If your friends love you enough, they will land you a spouse and they have a magical way at it too. 

So always keep it real as you never know where that your man might be springing out from, anytime. Just like this beautiful lady whom Bob Manuel Udokwu snag up, your man might be staring at you from across the building or like Isaac's wife, Rebecca, might ask you for some flimsy favor.  Icheoku says congratulations to the Udokwus and to all those happily married couples celebrating their various anniversaries. To those still not so lucky in love yet, people who are still pounding the pavement of love in search of the one, Icheoku says don't give up, help is on the way as Cupid  is headed your way. Just be smart to discern when he arrives with your spouse and accept and work out whatever kinks that might still be left in him. Men somehow are still somehow lucky as they are not as challenged because they do the hunting and they decide on what game to shoot. Further, men are not as time-constrained and can always do their thing whenever they decide. Salute. 

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