JENNIFER LOPEZ: SIMPLY TOO OLD TO EXPECT TOO MUCH IN LOVE.

ICHEOKU says she missed her opportunity at a "happily ever after" when she walked away from Puff Diddy following the December 1999 New York night club shooting incident. Since then she has been restless in love, even though "love don't cost a thing", jumping from one man to another in search of the elusive happiness and affection. Those men who she has been with who we publicly know are Ojani Noa, P. Diddy, Chris Judd, Ben Afflect, Marc Anthony, Drake and then Rodriguez, her latest break up. How will she explain her unlucky in love experience to her daughter is always the question in many people's mind.

Jenny From The Block's biggest problem is that she is still expecting too much from the men who still come around her, forgetting that she is no longer a spring chicken. As a 51 year old severely overused woman, mother and even old enough to be a grandmother,  she should be grateful that some men still find her good enough to date. These men should  be forgiven if their eyes once in a while stray or they even periodically go out of the way to get some elsewhere; provided they later return home back to her. But instead of being mindful of the fact that nature has played a fast one on her as it does with every mortal, she still expects exclusive love from famous people dating her, despite their being much sort after by much younger and much more beautiful women without children, as additional unwanted attention divider. Put in another way, Jennifer Lopez should rather be grateful that some of these men still finds her attractive amidst the cutthroat competition out there with so many under 25 luscious damsels. 

She is no longer what she used to be thirty or twenty years ago when she was the it, the hottest chic around, who every man who could wanted to have beside them. So, her present "I am good enough to be your only love" and "it is just me or nothing" or "I will not share you with anyone"  attitude will not serve her very well. The temptation out there is simply too much that it will be very difficult for her to find a rich and famous, high net worth, able man, whose eyes will not be darting around or even publicly flirting with much younger women from time to time. Her all or nothing posture will not work and if she insists, she will either have to remain single and lonely for a long time or she will eventually have to settle for a less famous man who is not as rich as those she likes to date. It is a fact of life that circumstances sometimes dictates conscience and wise people adjust accordingly by settling for the available if their desirable is not available.

But what is even the derivative value in dating such a spent bullet, who so many men have been through that she could easily pass for an "In and Out" burger joint. She has had her moment in  the sun and yes, she was the it when it lasted; but not anymore. She is now too old to stay very competitive in the dating field, particularly with the type of men she would rather date and tolerate. Fifty one years for anybody is old and for a woman still in the dating field, it becomes one heck of an inhibitor. At her age and the lengthy history of men who have been through her, she is literary like a left over food which should be otherwise sour by now if not for refrigeration. But she is rich and medical and physical sciences and of course good nutrition and healthy habits have kept her looking better than she would otherwise be, but that has not diminished the fact that is a 51 year old mother of two, some of whose mates are already grandmas.

ICHEOKU says she is simply too old to still be too choosey. How many grandmothers are still out there, wagging their tail feathers, expecting a rich and famous man to look at them. What Jennifer Lopez really needs is no longer another man, but a psychiatric evaluation to figure out why she goes through men with the frequency she does; and then follow it up with a psychological counseling on how to curb her libidinous inclinations that drives her insatiable desire for men. In some other cultures, only a pensioner/widower will be looking at her way by now, so she is indeed lucky that she is still getting propositions. She should therefore learn how to make necessary accommodations for her men to sometimes use their wandering eyes and if they stray a little, just pretend as if she did not know about it. 

This is only a commonsensical solution and our mothers and grandmothers deployed it to achieve their long lasting marital experience. Men sometimes do stray and it will be foolhardy to expect a man to become an enoch just because you said so, admitted some men are very loyal when they love and really care about someone. Women, too. ICHEOKU says would have suggested that she pack it up with men and quit trying, but since she likes men as is obviously evident, she should learn to adjust her expectations accordingly in order to help her secure a lasting companionship. But hey, it is only Jennifer Lopez that will rightly advise Jennifer Lopez going forward and hopefully she will advise herself properly and also listen to her advise. Until then, best of luck to her.