LINDA IKEJI: A WOMAN SCORNED, BLACKMAILING HER BABY DADDY.

ICHEOKU says Linda is only blackmailing a guy whose only sin was picking up an easy lay, who  took in and was advised to see a doctor, but she refused. How could she, when her womb has long been yawning for a fruit and therefore, was too precious to flush out. According to Linda, her son is the product of a long unanswered prayer, which was finally answered. Query, why and what then is the need for Linda's tale by moonlight about a casual, reckless and unprotected sex, which produced for her a love child and also a loveless baby daddy?

Linda says she is 38 years old, but anyone who has some brain knows that Linda is likely closer to 45 years and at such an advanced old woman age, conceiving is often times very difficult for women. This explains why a surprised Linda would not hear nor entertain the idea of an abortion and she carried her child to full gestation. Luckily too, the child looks healthy and she has the means to support him and give him the best which money can purchase in his life. She should therefor zip it and stop all these pity party story for the Gods, because many people do not really care about what two adults did behind closed doors and at their spare time. 

So what, if she had sex with a stranger and got knocked up, and a child outside wedlock results? She will not be the first, neither will she be the last to so do. The last time ICHEOKU checked, none of the above is a crime, so, why bother with the salacious details. Linda should therefore move on with her life of being a single mother and a baby mama to a guy who did not and does not want a long term commitment and has himself since moved on. 

Nigerians would rather not be disturbed by the outbursts of a one night stand baby mama and she should have known better when she was riding an air bicycle and screaming harder baby, daddy, do it to me really harder; and recklessly, without any form of protection whatsoever. This is the real tragedy of her story, that a supposedly enlightened Linda Ikeji was having an unprotected sex with somebody she just met, a casual one night stand, despite its attendant risks including having a baby out of wedlock. She knows that her risky behavior could result in an unplanned and/or unwanted baby; or if planned by her, she did not communicate or share or break her sex partner, now turned her baby daddy, into it. Linda was being clever by half until 'nkata we kpudo ya bu onye aghugho.' 

Query, did Linda ever discuss getting pregnant or having a child with her baby daddy or was she up to no good in trying to trap the guy with a pregnancy, like so many unthinking women sometimes do. As every grown man who has played the field extensively knows, women are often times cunning, thinking that they are smart, only to down the road regret their actions. Some of such entrapped men often times turn into monsters, as they never forgive such women who forced marriage on them, just because they had sex and pregnancy results and the story turns into you must marry me o. These daughters of Eve have also somewhat perfected the act of entrapment with pregnancy, that even when you agree that condoms and birth controls should be used, they always find a way of skirting the agreement, only to turn around and blame you for getting them pregnant. 

There was this case where one guy did all he could do to stay above the you must marry me thing, until the woman insisted that she will be the one putting on him the condom. But unbeknownst to this guy, the girl always rip off the tip of the condom and the guy thinking that their agreement was holding kept on coming without withdrawal. Few months into their gig, the girl told him that she is pregnant and that she is not aborting the child and that he is responsible for it and must marry her. The rest of the story is now history, but their marriage is one made in hell and blessed by Lucifer. But do you blame the guy when a woman forced herself on him and compelled him to say "I DO." 

Sometimes when such unplanned pregnancy results and these lecherous woman are asked to see a doctor or even before then, are asked to be on birth control pills or feminine guards or cervix gauze, they will refuse. Some will tell you that their upbringing and religious faith is against such things and that it is murder to flush a zygote or rather blood clot inside their womb and we are speaking about a few weeks old cells. They will tell you that abortion is not a medical procedure, but a sin; and that God will not forgive them if they try it. Meanwhile all the time they were performing acrobatic gymnastics and screaming daddy mo, daddy mo, harder and harder, they did not remember that they had the special upbringing and/or that their faith was against having sex outside wedlock. 

They were just interested in proving themselves a whore on your bed, trying to satisfy you and to make you not look any further, and to prevent your wandering eyes from seeing any other God's creature, who is shaking what her mother gave her, down the road.  It is a game for many of them and they have perfected it to science. They will be riding dirty, with legs thrust up as high as Mountain Everest and spread apart as wide as Lake Michigan, with your suffocating self sandwiched in between, only to change the story when pregnancy results and come and see a possessed animal, swearing at you like you killed her parents and entire family. 

ICHEOKU is not here to chastise anybody nor pass judgment on Linda Ikeji or hold brief for her baby daddy, either. ICHEOKU says is here to share some thoughts and also to condemn, in no unmistakable terms, the attempt by Linda to blackmail a guy for merely having  sex with her and he never raped her nor forced his through her. That Linda did not even care nor bothered to find out if the guy was HIV/AIDS or Hepatitis C free; as well as free of other venereal diseases, before taking her pants off for him shows the level of her moral degeneracy and turpitude. That a child resulted from the dalliance is not the big deal here, because Linda purposely schemed the outcome which she got; only that she became an Oliver Twist and wanted more; admitted she couldn't get that her other particular wish fulfilled. 

Linda wanted a child so desperately and her wish was fulfilled by her baby daddy and sperm donor, who obliged her, albeit unintentionally. What a dream come true for her, she got a baby and also wanted the guy in addition; but Linda did not and does not care what her baby daddy actually wanted nor wants. It is all about Linda and nobody else. 

Linda Ikeji is a living example of the tragedy that are those high flying "big girls" in Nigeria and their fellow crazed-out, wild eyed, feminists activists, who are running around town with much gusto, but beneath the facade, are pining away in misery of a loveless and very lonely life. They know that their life is incomplete without a man and they know that as females, there is this naturally occurring biological fire, burning inside of them, with the urge to give life to another, and the lack of fulfillment of this often drives them nut-crazy. 

This group of women have succeeded in every other department of their life, except the the ultimate one, which incidentally they cherishes most - to become a mother and if lucky enough, to kill two birds with a stone and also become somebody's wife, as well. So, dear readers, forget their pretenses and forget their facades, because inside of them is a raging inferno of desire for men, which often manifests as rage against men because they couldn't find one and that no man found them wifely enough, to want to take them to the alter and make them honest women. 

Every woman is by nature a mother, with the ultimate desire to procreate and these highly mobile and jet pacing over achieving women are no exception. They also have their social ego at stake, as they become the object of gossips as to why despite their status, no man ever found them worthy enough to make them their wife. The pressure becomes palpably unbearable when all their friends have since moved on and into men's homes as wives and possibly mothers and they are still left in the cold. They feel abandoned and they feel rejected and they act out every time an incident forces their anxiety to bubble up to the surface. ICHEOKU is emphatic that the angriest women on earth are loveless sex starved women, those that do not get laid periodically. It is hormonal and estrogen is a real bitch; and it ravages them like dogs in heat. It is true and it is backed up by scientific studies. 

Unfortunately, the only way to guard against this, short of the natural progression of procreation, is to surgically take out the entire birth entrails - the womb or uterus, as well as the Fallopian tubes. That way the hormones could be checked and peradventure, prevent it from causing them any further distress. But if in doubt, just read up some medical literature or even watch National Geographic Channel and see felines go nuts when in heat; they literary beg for it. 

People in Linda's social class or rather single women with money, are so much disproportionately displaced in the love lane. First, they will not accept a lower rung  man as a suitor; then the men in their level or above them will not want the disrespect or psychological rivalry and completion involved in dating or even marrying them and will easily step down to get women who are lower than them but who will still show them some respect. It is usually a case of their being suspended mid air, where neither going up is feasible and coming down is not palatable, either. And they are not helped by the cutthroat competition from the up and coming highly mobile and ambitious sweet sixteens, which increases their dick-droughts, triggering the ever present rage against men in them. They are angry and they don't surfer fools showing it, just don't yank their tail feathers.

But what Linda failed to or did not include in her long epistle of a broken heart tale is what made the guy to Ben Johnson away and as fast as his legs could carry him. Is it possible that Linda is such a high maintenance chic that satisfactorily pleasing her is near impossible? Is it possible that Linda does not know how to be a great homemaker and cannot lift a thing and put them in their proper and correct places? Is it possible that the Linda who Nigerians see publicly is different from the fiesta catty Linda behind closed doors, who no real man can stand or tolerate her negatively charged impulses? 

May be Linda is a walking time bomb and a mood killer supernova, who screams and shouts and nags; and sometimes even craws and scratches people in a manufactured fight just to make somebody's life miserable? Is it possible that Linda is even bi-polar and possessed with acerbic mood swings that goes out of whack without notice or provocation? Is it possible that Linda is a stalker who will not give a man any breathing space and is in the habit of checking a man's phone? 

May be Linda is the type of a less confident chic, despite all the bull-crap braggadocio,  who will constantly suspect that her man is cheating on her and perpetually, falsely accuses him of unfounded infidelity, which no real man can stand. Is it possible that Linda is not domesticated enough to be of a good wifely quality or possibly not good enough in bed, that no man wants to be trapped with such an unfeeling cur for the rest of his life? Nobody knows exactly how Linda really responds to the stimuli of sex; so, is it possible that she is just a log of wood in bed, the type who reads the Bible with a man on top of her and will tell him to please let her know when he finishes? Is it possible that Linda does not know even how to cook, clean and keep the habitat tidy; and might not even be as clean inside as she looks outside? 

Is it possible that Linda has anger issues and throws fits and starts, as well spasmodic tantrums which no real man can really put up with? Is it possible that Linda screams and shouts at the slightest disagreement, such that will drive any real man nuts, and as far away from her as is distantly possible? Is it possible that with Linda Ikeji, it is always her way or the highway and which man will tolerate such an absurdity and for how long, except a man who cannot fend for himself and decided to become a Mr Mom to her?  May be Linda curses like a drunken sailor and throws profanities at the slightest provocation; and possibly breaks things when she gets mad? Is it possible that Linda is not well mannered and does not maintain proper personal hygiene and does not have the right etiquette? Is it possible that she has addiction problems, may be alcohol, drugs or even excessive impulsive shopping? There are a thousand and one reasons why and which could make a man to pass, ditto a woman. 

ICHEOKU says there are a thousand and one reasons men check out of relationships; moreso every sex tryst must not end up in an 'I DO".  How about "I CHANGED MY MIND", or  "I NO DO ANYMORE", or are men not allowed to ever back out of a relationship? What is good for the goose should also be good for the gander; and if women can end a relationship pronto, fairness demands that men should also be allowed to enjoy that privilege, if they elect to exercise it. 

Imagine where every man or every woman is compelled to marry every sexual partner he or she ever had, some people will make Abubakar Atiku, a kindergartner in the art of collecting women. Just like women look for certain things in a potential husband, men also look at certain things in a wife to be; and when they don't find them, they beat a fast and quick and speedy retreat. Like not every man is a good husband material, because it is not just about having a penis; likewise women, as there is more to being a wife than just having a vagina and two breasts. 

So is it possible that Linda's baby daddy did not find in Linda what he was looking for in a wife to be and decided to withhold his affection before he became trapped in an unholy, agonizing and unhappy union, called a marriage to Linda Ikeji? ICHEOKU says does not know what stick that broke the camel's back for him was; and nobody else but the guy, including Linda, conclusively knows. All Linda did was to give an account of her side, a  favorable narration indeed, as would make her the sympathetic victim. But Nigerians cannot be deceived, especially not those steeped in the game of love and understands the nature of the beast and how it is played. Such a grown woman and widely traveled and hopefully civilized, should know better; hence nobody with some functioning cerebral cortex is buying into the malarkey which she is selling. It is a snake oil tale of love gone sour and she wants to come out of it smelling like roses, but ICHEOKU says cut the crap Linda.

ICHEOKU will advise the guy to continue to maintain his silence and not take the bait which Linda set for him, by not joining issues with her, because he will not win the game of the mud with a pig. No well mannered and decent woman will so publicly air her private business for the consumption of a hounding world, which means no well, either to her or the other guy, nor anybody else for that matter. Her behavior is street, a market-woman like, and possibly the reason the very private guy, her baby daddy, found her not a wifely material and pulled the plug to whatever they had going on between them. 

Linda will not be the first woman, nor will she be the last woman, to spread her legs for a guy who was not into her romantically enough to want to take the relationship any further. Marriage is not by force and marriage should not be contracted by two strange bed fellows whose souls are not bonded together. Parties to any thing, including sexual coitus or relationship, must endeavor to spell out things about their expectations out of each other, right from the onset. Fa suppose ikpo okwu afa, in order to know if they are agreeable and ad idem to a definite future plan before proceeding. So many unhappy marriages exist today as a result of strangers, who came together, had sex and a baby results; and instead of seeing a doctor, they decided to formalize their relationship just to welcome the baby into a home. 

This should not be the case, because it always ends up causing lamentations of Gomorrah, with both parties regretting why did they get married. A party to a marriage must, under no circumstances, feel compelled or trapped, otherwise they will spend their entire life in the marriage looking for ways to break free and escape with little time left to enjoy each other. The days of sympathy marriage is long over and being single is not yet outlawed. But ask yourself who wants to be trapped in such a permanent cage fight, in a life that is already too short to waste it ruefully with somebody who you silently pray without ceasing for his or her demise, so that you could be set free. 

Linda is a woman scorned and William Congreve's play, The Mourning Bride, rightly captured it that "Hell has no fury like a woman scorned." Linda is hurting because her plan to entrap a guy who wants none of her in the long term, has failed and now she wants to spread her misery and make a villain out of an innocent man who just picked up a chic and had sex with her. Linda had several options, first she could have rejected the guy's come on passes; she could have not followed the guy home on their first meet; she could have not had sex him or if she must, do it with condom; she could have also placed herself on some birth control pills or even have a vaginal sperm guard or cervical gauze to trap the semen; and Linda could also have flushed her womb clean, when she suspected that something might be sticking right inside there and the guy was not interested in furthering their expedition. But she maintained her course, hoping that she can blackmail a guy into committing to her, only to now be abandoned midway like a trailer park whore, by a guy who did nothing wrong except screwing a date, who gave it up. 

It is unfortunate but it is true as Linda's ego is so stratospheric that being an unwanted single mother was not the life she had planned for herself. But shit do happen and Linda should learn to pick up her pieces and go her way and quit this uncalled for tale of love gone awry. The current fight she is smarting for is unnecessary and she will probably not get it, not from a guy who wants to remain under the radar because of the friendships he keeps within the Nigerian high echelon. 

Most decent people avoid scandals like plague and this guy is probably cut in the same cloth, no matter what the whirlwind dust Linda throws up. Avoiding a fight one cannot win is wisdom and not weakness; so Linda can have all the airwaves and social media to herself, as silence is often the most deadly weapon of heart destruction known to lovers. The guy should just give her the silent treatment and she will implode internally, case closed. 

The guy can help her with his child's upkeep by providing Linda with some cash support, if Linda will accept it. He should also try as much as possible to be in his son's life, if again Linda will permit it. Later, if he desires to claim his son, he can always work out an agreeable arrangements with Linda to finally, someday, have his boy returned back to him, his father. At least, he has not denied paternity and the boy looks like him anyway. Possibly too, he can just let Linda be and hopefully, the boy will grow up someday and either reconcile his parents or look for his dad. 

But no matter what happens, life goes on and like Aduke rightly said, "NEPA or no NEPA, Aduke is on." As for Linda, she should know that there are millions of single mothers out there and that it is not a big deal that another one, called Linda Ikeji, just joined the club of unwed mothers' catalogue. The world has advanced so much that no child is a bastard any longer, especially not one whose father is clearly identified and known. As for being an unwed mother and baby mama reject, that's more of a societal derivative than what is right and she can live with that. 

Linda is a big gal and can take care of her business and so, has the supreme right to have as many babies as she wants to have and as with many baby daddies as her heart delights. There was this woman on Maury Povich's Show who had seven children from eight different men and although presently married, her ninth child was not even from her husband's groins. Linda's child or children do not necessarily have to travel to Southeast Igbo land, as even those born by officially married Ndigbo no longer see themselves as being Igbo, courtesy of their parents, who no longer travel to the Southeast nor take their children home to the Southeast, not even at Christmas. 

Even some of these parents are now being buried in strange foreign lands, both abroad and domestic. Many of them who live in Lagos, Abuja, Kano, Port Harcourt and other nooks of Nigeria, have since abandoned their ancestral homes in the Southeast and are now full citizens of their abodes of domicile. So, Linda's son or children yet unborn, if she decides to have more, will be just fine being Lagosians and so, no big deal about what umunna would say or how they will react to the proverbial "bastards."

Linda should just take some chill pills and relax and be thankful that she has the means and can support her child because some out of the millions of other not so fortunate baby mamas, are on the streets, begging for money to buy diapers for their own love children and the heavens have fallen down in protest. 

As for her reason for sharing the story, ICHEOKU says it was an unnecessary TMI. Nobody really wants to know or cares that two adults had sex and a baby resulted therefrom. She  could have summarized her tale from the Crypt very tersely, - "She met this guy, she thought that they had something going on, they had sex, it resulted in a baby. The guy is not ready to settle down. She love her child, a gift from God, and she intends to be the best mother ever to him, case close." Her needless "Love Gone Sour" essay would have been kept so brief and everybody would have since moved on from the story of a knocked up Linda IKeji and the current dramatization of an affair that went sour.

Linda, by telling her story broke the cardinal rule of "don't ask, don't tell" which every relationship, be it marriage, relationship or a fling, demands. According to Tiwa Savage, such two party contract is not a community project, talkless of Linda now making hers a national or rather global project. What a kiss and tell amebo Linda became and you wonder if she could now pass for a Nigerian version of Stormy Daniels who rats on her trysts. Which man wants to be so publicly shamed as a hit and run? 

How about, it is nobody's business what her private life is or did Linda tell anybody when she was riding the air bicycle and screaming 'daddy, f**k me harder, into the guy's ears; not knowing that the guy was not finding it funny nor was he enjoying her theater of absurdity. Matters of the heart is usually different strokes for different folks; and as she screamed every gibberish with excited passion, with every of his thrusting, did she ever look into his eyes to gauge if things were mutually correlated; or is she a tata who does not know when a man is not into her or is smitten by her. 

Nobody was either told nor invited as a witness by Linda when she was doing her thing, so, it is ill advised for her to now forcibly bring everybody into her business and burden them with the salacious details of her being had like a cheap whore and dumped. The last time ICHEOKU checked, Linda never told anybody that she likes dating guys who she is much taller than; or that little people turns her on in a special way or that she would, ordinarily, have looked at the guy twice, if not for who he is and the types of friends which he keeps their company, which Linda of course, would like to be identified and associated with. In some way, Linda qualifies for the proverbial gold digger, admitted it was a different kind of gold she was digging, social class and connections within a particular realm.

ICHEOKU says Linda is entitled to date whoever she likes, but she must suck it up whenever it turns sour because things are not always what they seem.  She should learn not to bother the entire world with her sulking, because millions of other people have been shafted and will continue to be shafted just like her. Everybody knows that Linda was increasingly becoming so desperate to be a mother and if lucky, a wife too. Few years ago, Linda  repeatedly gushed about this her upcoming fantasy wedding with this fantasy guy, who nobody ever knew nor saw or met; giving rise to a story that she merely conjured him up in her mind. She never disclosed the guy's identity to anyone until now when she got knocked her up by a stranger and everyone is being dragged into it, giving credence to the story then that Linda never had any man at all, but was just making it up as she went, while languishing in her lonely laland of desires. 

But what was Linda's attraction to this her baby daddy sef, other than a case of the desirable not being available and the available was converted to being the desirable. She should count her blessings that she at least proved her womanhood, that she was capable of getting pregnant and having a baby. Every other thing is but bunkum hogwash as she knew the risks involved in having unprotected sex but chose to take them anyway. You don't just have unprotected sex with a guy without discussing what would happen if a pregnancy results, especially at her very advanced old woman age, too old for bearing children. If she is as decent a woman as she is painting herself to be, why was she so reckless at her old age not to use protection? What if the guy had the killer virus? Why did she get pregnant without weighing the ramifications and discussing it with the guy to see if that is what he wanted as well? 

Certain things does not usually make sense and this Linda's tale of love gone sour is definitely one of them. Some women often times do stupid things, including getting pregnant and hoping to entrap a man with it, but without first discussing it with the man to gauge his reactions and whether he is ready to buy into such a long term commitment. As with Linda, she was desperate to have a child and possibly too, answer somebody's wife and she saw an opportunity and took it. She should therefore zip up her front upper orifice and rather be thankful and grateful that she is a woman of means and can afford to take care of her God's gift through the guy and not want it all. That is the definition of greediness. The guy technically agreed to be her sperm donor and now Linda wants more than what was originally bargained, just a quickie. Mbanu, adighi eme ya eme; no be like that now. 

Please Linda, stop discussing your business, especially your privacy in public. Nobody really cares and those who pretend to care are but vultures waiting to pounce on your carcass and devour you. Just learn to discipline yourself enough to not scare any future potential suitors away. You are not impressing anyone by shouting on top of the world that you are a Naira billionaire and probably not as rich as you regularly flaunts, including in denying ownership of your Banana Island home when the tax men called. Regardless, just maintain your cool and not be as rambunctious as you have been, admitted those who did not know that they will ever afford the ozo title, sometimes wear their anklets insignia right up to their knees.

ICHEOKU says Linda's epistle is a cry for help and a desperate plea for attention. She needs a man who she can come to and take off her clothes without minding his presence. She needs a man she can come home to and have her feet lovingly stroked or massaged or have her hair flung free and have him run his fingers on it. She needs a man who can whisper sweet nothings in her ears and tell her how she is the oxygen in his lungs; and how she is the Queen of the universe of his world. She needs companionship and a safe hands to run back home to after the bustling of the day. 

Linda needs someone she can call her own and hold his arm as she steps into social events and gatherings. She needs someone who she can go to vacations with and lazily lounge in white sand beaches of the Caribbean and Tahiti. And yes, most women do not feel complete without having a man they can call their own man. Linda Ikeji is understandably furious that her last desperate ditch effort left his tail in her hand and screeched off. Now with his son to constantly remind her of him of what could have been doesn't make her pains any easier. So, simply put, Linda is losing it, her sanity that is. 

Looking into Linda's eyes you will see a hopeless romantic who is desperately begging to be loved and she likely has a large good heart as well. She is not ugly, although she is not a beauty queen, but she is reasonably good looking and not the type of gal who nobody will like to take to a prom party; admitted she is not the type most would hurriedly take home on Thanksgiving to meet their family. Linda may have everything money can purchase including designer bags from Hermes; but what Linda does not have is somebody she can call her own man, who can unconditionally love her and make her feel complete. 

That Linda loves sex is a fact discernible from her body language and her forever roving and darting eyes, as well as actions, such as laboriously driving two hours just to go get some. That Linda likes to be specially remembered during holidays, including on Valentines Day, is also indisputable, every woman does. So it is very easy to see where Linda is coming from and why she is lashing out at a guy she thought she had cornered but who managed to slip off through her fingers. She is mad as hell and she is acting out her bottled up and pent up anger and frustrations. Linda is just being human, with a beating heart and she is hurting.

Unlike men with money, Linda does not have the privilege of just driving down the street or to a university or even at a social event to pick up a lay to go home with. Most women are very particular about who they date and who they say yes to, despite the hundreds of men that usually make passes at them. The social ladder climbers are the worse hit because they will be extra vigilant lest their friends and colleagues chides them about the lower caste they settled for. They are heavily constrained about who they date or have sex with, and usually younger men and men who doesn't belong, are often a no, no for them. 

Also, unlike their men counterparts who plays the field and sometimes can even sleep with women, who are young enough to be their granddaughter. So, put in an odd way, Linda Ikeji also do also cry, although her cry is not for lack of money or food or cloth or designer hand bags; no, her cry is a cry for help for somebody to please love her; as she has not been so lucky in that department, in finding a true love. That is the whole propeller driving her shaft, resulting in the lashing out and not that somebody had sex with her and knocked her up and a baby boy came into being, as a result. 

But can Linda settle for a man with less means, as sometimes such successful women are forced to do? That's the million dollar question and only Linda Ikeji can answer that question. If ICHEOKU may, will advises Linda to find a guy who does not have as much money or someone even without any money at all; take out a prenuptial agreement, with a promise to pay the guy a bonus of N1 million every year he remained of good behavior and until death do them apart. She should just purchase a trophy husband and damn what anyone would say; and let him love her and pamper her and that way she could truly find somebody who could love, cherish and treasure her for the Linda she is. Just a man with sensitivity will do. 

But Linda is making a mistake thinking that with her riches, she could attract other similarly situated rich men, because those men on that level will not settle for an old hag when the entire bevy of Forever 21 are at their beck and call. The competition is so rife that without her money, nobody will be talking or discussing a woman who is old enough to be grandma; as so many of her mates have been going to omugo since yesterday; but here she is, shamelessly discussing having unprotected sex with a guy she just met and getting knocked up as a result.

In India, any woman that passes 25 years without being married is filed away in the unmarried cabinet to rot away; pining at the missed opportunity which she once had. It is true that biology is not merciful to women and the competition is cutthroat, as much younger and much succulent women join the market for men and suitors every day more than you can count. So, why would those men in that level of affluence settle for a Linda Ikeji when they can get as many sweet sixteens as they please. People they can easily please and mesmerized with little stuff than an old woman who has it all and who can hardly be pleased with anything. This is the crux of the matter in the Linda imbroglio and Linda should wake up and smell the coffee to know that her time in the sun has actually since passed and that her choices in the men's market is drastically reduced, if not already closed down. 

But hey, ICHEOKU has no intention of becoming an unpaid counselor here, as Linda knows best what is best for Linda, provided she stopped making her business, the world's business. Everybody has their own issues to deal with and they will be better off if their burden is not made heavier by Linda, with her tales of woes about her love forlorn. Linda is inviting tailor ants and soldier ants by being obnoxiously, too loud for comfort, especially for most of the men who can easily afford to marry her and give her all the life she dreams of and which money can afford, but she is scaring these few good men away and out of her reach. 

Anyway, just said to chime in and hopefully Linda will someday find the elusive love which has been going on a parallel lane from her for as long as Linda became. She is just another Jennifer Aniston or is it even Genevieve Nnaji, another over achieving woman who could not find someone to truly love her. In a Lucifer's world, where nobody actually has it all and Linda Ikeji should learn to make do with what she has and not sweat other sundry stuff. She got herself an awesome healthy boy to raise and hopefully he will someday reconcile his mama with his papa and together the three can live out their life in a bliss filled home. Goodluck Linda and Merry Christmas to the LIB family.