Icheoku was about to question the murder/suicide of Westchester New York Jewish lawyer Samuel Friedlander, but recalled that we all are somewhat mad but we just try to mask it as we go about our daily chores, pretending to be sane? One popular aphorism says that anyone can remain an angel when his or her feathers have not been ruffled which leads Icheoku to a criminal intent provocation classroom several decades ago when a professor affirmed the general insanity of man and the daily struggle to tame it as well as contain it. That a lawyer who ought to know better being an officer of the law, blessed with two beautiful kids - just look at those two little angels especially the girl in lime green; and you tell me how anyone could have visited harm on any of them except that person has lost his center of equilibrium and has completely gone cuckoo? That to Icheoku is the state Attorney Friedlander entered in when he took up a 12-gauge shotgun and blasted these little children out of this earth and thereafter bludgeoned their mother to an awful death with a tow by four or waht appears to be a chair leg? According to a friend of the suicide who expressed shock that lawyer Friedlander could harm these kids, "If Friedlander had only killed his wife I would have baked him a cafe with a file in it; but it is unimaginable that his gentle soul could harm those kids. I can;t figure that out. The only thing I could think of is that when he killed her, the switch went out. It wasn't Sam who killed those kids, it was his body, but it wasn't him. A case of uncontrolled motors which is atypical of "not his act" insanity defense?
As with most cases in this genre, a bitter DIVORCE is to blame as the estranged wife kept on piling on him according to friends privileged of their acquaintance, until he snapped and lost his humanity; turning into the murderous beast which took the lives of this two young and beautiful children as well as the "bitch" who otherwise made him lose his mind; before turning a Remington 870 pistol on himself. Icheoku says what a life of no meaning we live in; yet some people pretend otherwise as if theirs is honky-dory. To make matters worst, instead of one of the parties moving out of their house, they decided to ride it out as co-habitators with each living in a separate bedroom but shared the common areas such as the kitchen, garage etc. Icheoku says if you have never been in a situation where you are tired-sick of seeing a person around you, you will not know how provocative it could be and the easiness with which this Westchester murder/suicide took place. Smart people, whenever they are done with each other, will endeavor to move very far away from each other as to not unexpectedly bump into each other say like in a grocery store. That way it is easier to have a clean break for the healing process to begin and begin earnestly. But the let us tough it out crazies, who like the two foolish goats on the bridge would not bulge, most always end up this way. Human-beings are beasts except that in their moment of lucid intervals or lucidity, they put on a mask of sanity and pretend to be what they are not.
Some estranged wives sometimes use such intervals of tensed co-habitation to really drive their estranged husbands into lunacy-land with unceasing nagging, delirious and derisive bursts of intermittent laughters for no apparent reason, putting on the light at odd periods, playing the music especially the man's least favorite so loud it irritates and for those spouses out to get you, bringing home her new dates or making her latest love-interest and romance so public that it catches the man's attention. Sometimes some women try to turn the children against their dad and some even go to the extent of running off with such children to make it impossible for a loving father to still see or be with his children. Icheoku have also seen where the man was the one dishing it out the hell on the estranged spouse; but the bottom-line is to know when it is over and make that break with minimum hurt and anguish whatsoever. Like President Bush said of the presidency, it is hard, it is a hard-work; likewise is the road traveled to breaking up.
Once in your heart, there is no more a place for the fading spouse, then know it is time to take that long walk away from him or she. Admitted that supposed friends, family and parties with interest might call you names or try to intervene, all in an attempt to find stories to gossip with, but just know within your heart that you took the highroad and the best available option possible. A marriage which started on a rocking grounds cannot prosper and you owe it to yourself to take a hike the moment the rumblings becomes threateningly louder; but you must not wait to see if a resolution could come marching in through the front door. It is your marriage and not any other's; so always follw your heart when it calls. It is the way, the only way out of an unholy and unhappy bondage called a miserable marriage; but never take the law into your hands by harming the spouse or as in this case other innocent children who were not a party to the beef that midwifed the tragedy.
A look at the present case, where the now dead woman and former wife of the also dead-killer, confiscated the children's clothes just to stop them from going to seder and attending bar mitzvah with their Jewish fatther, an orthodox Jew to whom religiious observations meant a great deal, shows a possible provocative acts on the part of the woman. Nonetheless, Icheoku has no sympathy for this suicide-lawyer as what he did lacks any meaningful explanation, justification or rationalization whatsoever. It is simply put, stupid, stupid and stupid. It is so stupidly crazy that it is not worth it as no woman and daughter of Eve is worth losing the world for; at worst just hit the road Jack and never look back or come back. It is the wise way, it is the way that leads to true happiness and it is called FREEDOM!
NY police: Man killed his kids, wife and himself
ReplyDeleteBy JIM FITZGERALD, Associated Press
Wednesday, October 19, 2011
A man in the middle of a divorce fatally shot his two children and bludgeoned his wife before killing himself in their sprawling home in an affluent suburb, police said Wednesday.
The bodies of Amy and Sam Friedlander and their children, 8-year-old Gregory and 10-year-old Molly, were discovered Tuesday afternoon, hours after their deaths, in Cross River, north of New York City.
The couple had a divorce proceeding scheduled for Thursday, according to state police Maj. Michael Kopy.
The children were found dead in their beds, shot and then placed under the covers.
Their mother, who had fought back, lay dead on the floor of the master bedroom, a furniture leg nearby. Police recovered the shotgun the father used; his body was in the basement.
Counselors were summoned for the officers who encountered the carnage.
Police had been alerted by the wife's worried business partner.
"She was aware that Mr. and Mrs. Friedlander had been involved in divorce proceedings and that she had not heard from Mrs. Friedlander during the day," said Kopy. "She felt that was unusual and she asked troopers to go out to the residence."
Kopy did not name the business partner. However, Deborah Bernstein posted a notice on the website of John Jay Prep, an academic and college test prep tutoring service.
"We are deeply saddened by the tragic loss of Amy Friedlander and her children Molly and Gregory," it said. "Amy was not only a business partner but a personal friend and loving mother. She will be truly missed by us and the community at large."
Kopy said a domestic incident was reported at the house in 2006, with no arrest. He said it was "an argument over the children, certainly not indicative of what transpired here Monday night into Tuesday morning."
The father worked as an attorney in the Bedford-Katonah area, handling "minor criminal matters," Kopy said.
"There was some indication that Mr. Friedlander had been acting somewhat irrationally. His behavior over the past weeks and months had been inconsistent with his previous behavior," Kopy said. "People noticed some changes."
But he added: "No one has said anything that would lead us to believe, or would have led them to believe, that this would have occurred."
On Wednesday, police parked their vehicles in front of the Friedlanders' four-bedroom, blue-gray, Colonial-style house and challenged anyone who tried to linger; crime-scene tape was stretched across the driveway.
The Journal News (http://tinyurl.com/3hxp9m3) said a May 2000 wedding announcement in The New York Times had described Amy Friedlander as a vice president for Chase Manhattan Bank. The wedding announcement said her husband was an associate counsel of the National Association of Insurance Commissioners in Manhattan.
Kopy, asked whether the couple had financial problems, declined to speculate on any contributing factors.
The neighborhood, called Michelle Estates, was developed by financier Carl Icahn and has homes valued at around $800,000 to $1 million, the Journal News reported.
A small "For Sale" sign stands at the curb in front of the Friedlanders' home, which is listed for $799,000. It's located on a long, looping road that features some even larger houses on elegantly landscaped properties. But it's clearly a family neighborhood: Some residents have decorated for Halloween, with pumpkins on their porches and fake spider webs across the shrubs.
One neighbor' house has a sign taped to the storm door, with the request, "Please respect privacy."