WOMEN, JUST VERY SELFISH!

Is it the nature of women to practice self-preservation and sometimes to extreme limits? Why is it that women would rather no one else succeeds if she will not be the one to succeed? I was watching a Nigeria movie "MY PROMISE" the other day and the chief protagonist woman, desperate to marry her former fling went diabolical killing the guys' wife and infant child. However nemesis of the dead woman caught up with her and she lost her womb or her capacity to bear a child. She hid all these information from the suitor whom she cast a spell on to make him marry her; and even a prophet the husband took her to while searching for a child confronted her on her past. Anyway the gist of the story is that when she could not give this man a child, he tried to explore other alternative option of getting a child through a second wife, but she would hear none of that!

I have had the privilege of close friendship with some men who are sterile and cannot impregnate a woman. After resisting several years of pressure of childlessness brought upon them by their unceasingly nagging wives, they acquiesced to invitro-fertilization. However I also know some women who cannot procreate because of some medical condition they have but who would not hear the option of their husband having a child outside wedlock or having a quasi wife just to give him a child. Why, one may ask? If not crass selfishness and meanness, what is it? Their reason is always self-centered self-preservation! According to them, what they cannot have they would rather no one else have it; and yet they profess to love their husbands dearly. If this is not a case of classic selfishness nothing else so qualifies?

Why is it ok for a barren woman to adopt a child even though as in some cases, her husband is virile but the reverse is always the case where the man is the impotent party therein; in which case the wife will strong-arm him into accepting her being invitro-fertilized. What is wrong with a husband who can still procreate from taking a second wife or better still a quasi wife or mistress just for purposes of giving him a child? If the husband insists on getting the child somewhere, somehow, he will be accused of being a typical male who only cares about his welfare. That he cannot stand by his wife and wait on the lord for that inevitable miracle of child-birth. The case of the biblical Sarah, wife of Abraham is readily bandied around as the northern star of patience. Would some one with better knowledge please throw more light on this disproportionate disparity in what is tolerable between a husband and a wife. Icheoku says it ain't fair!