GUN VIOLENCE IN AMERICA: FOR WHO THE BELL TOLLS NEXT.

Just five people shy of Sandy Hook elementary school mass shooting incident that claimed 26 lives, the Uvalde Texas Robb elementary school mass shooting at 21 victims, now ranks among the highest grossing gun carnage in America. It is sad that such frequent blood spilling has tragically become part of our culture as a society. May the souls of the killed now rest.

25th AMENDMENT: ITS NOW ALL CRICKET.

Madam Speaker Nancy Pelosi once questioned former President Donald John Trump's fitness to remain in office due to what she claimed was his declining mental capacity. Does anyone know what Madam Speaker presently thinks about the incontrovertible case which America is now saddled with? Just curious!

WHO WILL REBUILD UKRAINE?

The West should convert frozen Russian assets, both state's and oligarchs' owned, into a full seizure and set them aside for the future rebuilding of Ukraine. Like the Marshal Plan, call it the Putin Plan.

A HERO IS BORN.

I am staying put. I will not run away and abandon my people. The fight is here in Ukraine. What I need are weapons and ammunitions, not a ride out of town like former Afghanistan President Ashraf Ghani - President Volodymyr Zelensky.

IT IS WHAT IT IS.

"There is too much hate in America because there is too much anger in America." - Trevor Noah.

WORD!

A life without challenges is not a life lived at all. A life lived is a life that has problems, confronts problems, solves problems and then learns from problems. - Tunde Fashola.

NOW, YOU KNOW.

When fishing for love, bait with your heart and not your brain, because you cannot rationalize love. - Mark Twain.

JUST THE FACT.

In our country, you can shoot and kill a nigger, but you better not hurt a gay person’s feelings - Dave Chappelle

DO YOU?.

“What you believe in can only be defined by what you’re willing to risk for it." - Stuart Scheller.

HEDGE YOUR CRISIS.

Never get in bed with a woman whose problems are worse than yours. - Chicago PD.

PROBLEM SOLVED.

'The best way to keep peace is to be ready to destroy evil. If you Pearl Harbor me, I Nagasaki you.' - Ted Nugent.

OUR SHARED HUMANITY.

Empathy is at the heart of who we are as human beings. - Cardinal Matthew Kukah.

WORDS ON MARBLE.

"Birth is agony. Life is hard. Death is cruel." - Japanese pithy.

REPENT OR PERISH - POPE.

Homosexuality is a sin. It is not ordained by God, therefore same sex marriage cannot be blessed by the church - Pope Francis.

CANCEL CULTURE IS CORROSIVE.


FOR SAKE OF COUNTRY.


MAGA LIVES ON: NO RETREAT, NO SURRENDER!

TWITTER IS BORING WITHOUT HIS TWEETS. #RestorePresidentTrump'sTwitterHandle.


WORD.

"If you cannot speak the truth when it matters, then nothing else you says matters.” - Tucker Carlson.

#MeToo MOVEMENT: A BAD NEWS GONE CRAZY.

"To all the women who testified, we may have different truth, but I have a great remorse for all of you. I have great remorse for all of the men and women going through this crisis right now in our country. You know, the movement started basically with me, and I think what happened, you know, I was the first example, and now there are thousands of men who are being accused and a regeneration of things that I think none of us understood. I’m not going to say these aren’t great people. I had wonderful times with these people. I’m just genuinely confused. Men are confused about this issue. We are going through this #MeToo movement crisis right now in this country." - Harvey Weinstein.


RON DELLUMS: UNAPOLOGETICALLY RADICAL.

"If it’s radical to oppose the insanity and cruelty of the Vietnam War, if it’s radical to oppose racism and sexism and all other forms of oppression, if it’s radical to want to alleviate poverty, hunger, disease, homelessness, and other forms of human misery, then I’m proud to be called a radical.” - Ron Vernie Dellums.


WHAT REALLY MATTERS IN LIFE - STEVE JOBS

“I reached the pinnacle of success in the business world. In others’ eyes, my life is an epitome of success. However, aside from work, I have little joy. Non-stop pursuing of wealth will only turn a person into a twisted being, just like me. God gave us the senses to let us feel the love in everyone’s heart, not the illusions brought about by wealth. Memories precipitated by love is the only true riches which will follow you, accompany you, giving you strength and light to go on. The most expensive bed in the world is the sick bed. You can employ someone to drive the car for you, make money for you but you cannot have someone to bear sickness for you. Material things lost can be found. But there is one thing that can never be found when it is lost – Life. Treasure Love for your family, love for your spouse, love for your friends. Treat yourself well. Cherish others.” - SJ

EVIL CANNOT BE TRULY DESTROYED.

"The threat of evil is ever present. We can contain it as long as we stay vigilant, but it can never truly be destroyed. - Lorraine Warren (Annabelle, the movie)


ONLY THE POOR WISH THEY HAD STUFF?

“I’m not that interested in material things. As long as I find a good bed that I can sleep in, that’s enough.” - Nicolas Berggruem, the homeless billionaire.

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Saturday, January 23, 2016

THE OTHER WOMAN THEORY, OFTEN A FAULTY PREMISE.

Icheoku says many a time wives attribute their husbands' sudden indifference and lack of interest in them to their having extra marital affair somewhere. To them there is always that mysterious woman to whom their husbands have started showing some affection, the reason they no longer care again about them, but rather begins to just see through them. Although sometimes this might be somewhat the case, but not necessarily in all the cases and to an extent, may not be so in majority of the cases. 

Speaking from the point of view of a male specie and backed by several studies, men take a very long time before switching off their affection, provided it was there in the first place and not being acted or put up as a facade or as a means to score a chic. Men usually jump only when they are pushed away without any leeway to make it up or segue back to their loved lady; who albeit, inadvertently is driving them nuts or into a hurt locker. They take that leap of fate as a last resort; moreso as the only way out and for survival or as a parachute to try their hard luck in love somewhere else. Icheoku is emphatic that it is only at this point of saturation, of no return, that many a man start nosing around or fishing for some cooler environment elsewhere, outside the heat in the home they had sweated to build. 

Icheoku says more than 99.9% of men do not go into marriage believing it will fail; the reason they usually hop around playing the field before finally settling down for the most likely woman they accessed, would spell successful marriage; and then take her home to meet mom. So it is always surprising when women run off their mouths on their husbands or gossiping about their husbands that the other woman has stolen his heart. Nope, that other woman is only a succor, providing for the deficiencies which a man was forced to put up with, in the woman he had married. That woman does not not bitch the man, that woman does not nag the man; the man does not fear to return home after work because home is now a living hell; that woman does not use sex as a weapon and a man punished with denial of service who sees a woman with greater understanding, most likely will take the bait. 

A woman who suddenly stops feeding her husband just to punish him should know that the enzymes are braindead robots which must get their nutrition supplies at the appropriate time, so that they can go to work digesting them. When a woman refuses to feed her husband and another woman easily reads his face to know that his belly is churning, only a suicide will not be decisive with choices that was left him. When a woman begins to place her husband on timeouts or begins to consistently wear double jean shorts to bed at night, a man might be tempted to the touch of another  woman who knows what a man wants. So provided that the issue that first triggered the problem is tabled or voiced out, discussed and resolved timely, any woman who knows her onions and wants to earn the right to title of a lady, must learn the art of being a wife - tactical management of an overgrown child, which men are. 

Icheoku says men are the easiest creature God ever made, easy to please and easy to satisfy. Men do not need much; they only desire to be respected, leaving no one in doubt about the headship of the household. That semblance of authority or captain-ship of the house, some food if available, some sleep in order to rest for the next day's toil and some sex when the mood is right are practically the only things men really want and need. As a correlation, the sleep connotes some peace and quiet in the house otherwise the sleep will be sleeping-"muruanya" and it is never restful. Then of course there are some other category of men - the metrosexual men whom cleanliness and always looking good means a lot. Some of these men also prefer their women to be trim and smart and believe that baby-fat (post pregnancy) weight is sheadable too. Icheoku says are these too much to ask for rather than complaining about the other woman? 

Most times, it is when these expectations fail, with many of their repeated mentions and reminds continually ignored, that some men who could not stomach it anymore take that leap and Ben Johnson out of the house and straight into the other woman's bosom. Although men usually start throwing bait-able hooks with increased recurrences and non-abatement of such complained behaviors. But many a woman make that mortal mistake of just stonewalling the snippets of minders from their men, wrongly believing that nothing can be done about them and that nothing will happen as a result. Icheoku is not saying that these are ironclad insurance policy against a husband ever eloping with the other woman; but it always worked 91.7% of the time in every successful marriage. 

Conversely, like men, women equally desire well; so any man who wants his woman to be "the woman", his own very woman, must equally aspire to also be the man he is supposed to be. Women cherish the man who swept them off their feet among the many suitors who tried but failed before yielding their defenses and gave their hearts to you. So by the same token, listen to her and hear her cries for improved physique and better grooming. If she hates beer-belly always remind her of this whenever she tries to overfeed you with pounded yam, farina and other starch, especially so soon before going to bed in the night when metabolism is low. Then if you must drink, go for the spirits instead of the water-filled brews; and of course some exercise will never do you any harm. But above all, the TRC of every good relationship always trumps over everything else because with them, many marital problems are easily nipped in the bud before they force either party into another suitor's arms. Communicate with each other, respect each other and trust each other and then sit back and watch your union sizzle; and there won't be any agonizing tale of the other woman and of course, of the other man.