GUN VIOLENCE IN AMERICA: FOR WHO THE BELL TOLLS NEXT.

Just five people shy of Sandy Hook elementary school mass shooting incident that claimed 26 lives, the Uvalde Texas Robb elementary school mass shooting at 21 victims, now ranks among the highest grossing gun carnage in America. It is sad that such frequent blood spilling has tragically become part of our culture as a society. May the souls of the killed now rest.

25th AMENDMENT: ITS NOW ALL CRICKET.

Madam Speaker Nancy Pelosi once questioned former President Donald John Trump's fitness to remain in office due to what she claimed was his declining mental capacity. Does anyone know what Madam Speaker presently thinks about the incontrovertible case which America is now saddled with? Just curious!

WHO WILL REBUILD UKRAINE?

The West should convert frozen Russian assets, both state's and oligarchs' owned, into a full seizure and set them aside for the future rebuilding of Ukraine. Like the Marshal Plan, call it the Putin Plan.

A HERO IS BORN.

I am staying put. I will not run away and abandon my people. The fight is here in Ukraine. What I need are weapons and ammunitions, not a ride out of town like former Afghanistan President Ashraf Ghani - President Volodymyr Zelensky.

IT IS WHAT IT IS.

"There is too much hate in America because there is too much anger in America." - Trevor Noah.

WORD!

A life without challenges is not a life lived at all. A life lived is a life that has problems, confronts problems, solves problems and then learns from problems. - Tunde Fashola.

NOW, YOU KNOW.

When fishing for love, bait with your heart and not your brain, because you cannot rationalize love. - Mark Twain.

JUST THE FACT.

In our country, you can shoot and kill a nigger, but you better not hurt a gay person’s feelings - Dave Chappelle

DO YOU?.

“What you believe in can only be defined by what you’re willing to risk for it." - Stuart Scheller.

HEDGE YOUR CRISIS.

Never get in bed with a woman whose problems are worse than yours. - Chicago PD.

PROBLEM SOLVED.

'The best way to keep peace is to be ready to destroy evil. If you Pearl Harbor me, I Nagasaki you.' - Ted Nugent.

OUR SHARED HUMANITY.

Empathy is at the heart of who we are as human beings. - Cardinal Matthew Kukah.

WORDS ON MARBLE.

"Birth is agony. Life is hard. Death is cruel." - Japanese pithy.

REPENT OR PERISH - POPE.

Homosexuality is a sin. It is not ordained by God, therefore same sex marriage cannot be blessed by the church - Pope Francis.

CANCEL CULTURE IS CORROSIVE.


FOR SAKE OF COUNTRY.


MAGA LIVES ON: NO RETREAT, NO SURRENDER!

TWITTER IS BORING WITHOUT HIS TWEETS. #RestorePresidentTrump'sTwitterHandle.


WORD.

"If you cannot speak the truth when it matters, then nothing else you says matters.” - Tucker Carlson.

#MeToo MOVEMENT: A BAD NEWS GONE CRAZY.

"To all the women who testified, we may have different truth, but I have a great remorse for all of you. I have great remorse for all of the men and women going through this crisis right now in our country. You know, the movement started basically with me, and I think what happened, you know, I was the first example, and now there are thousands of men who are being accused and a regeneration of things that I think none of us understood. I’m not going to say these aren’t great people. I had wonderful times with these people. I’m just genuinely confused. Men are confused about this issue. We are going through this #MeToo movement crisis right now in this country." - Harvey Weinstein.


RON DELLUMS: UNAPOLOGETICALLY RADICAL.

"If it’s radical to oppose the insanity and cruelty of the Vietnam War, if it’s radical to oppose racism and sexism and all other forms of oppression, if it’s radical to want to alleviate poverty, hunger, disease, homelessness, and other forms of human misery, then I’m proud to be called a radical.” - Ron Vernie Dellums.


WHAT REALLY MATTERS IN LIFE - STEVE JOBS

“I reached the pinnacle of success in the business world. In others’ eyes, my life is an epitome of success. However, aside from work, I have little joy. Non-stop pursuing of wealth will only turn a person into a twisted being, just like me. God gave us the senses to let us feel the love in everyone’s heart, not the illusions brought about by wealth. Memories precipitated by love is the only true riches which will follow you, accompany you, giving you strength and light to go on. The most expensive bed in the world is the sick bed. You can employ someone to drive the car for you, make money for you but you cannot have someone to bear sickness for you. Material things lost can be found. But there is one thing that can never be found when it is lost – Life. Treasure Love for your family, love for your spouse, love for your friends. Treat yourself well. Cherish others.” - SJ

EVIL CANNOT BE TRULY DESTROYED.

"The threat of evil is ever present. We can contain it as long as we stay vigilant, but it can never truly be destroyed. - Lorraine Warren (Annabelle, the movie)


ONLY THE POOR WISH THEY HAD STUFF?

“I’m not that interested in material things. As long as I find a good bed that I can sleep in, that’s enough.” - Nicolas Berggruem, the homeless billionaire.

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Saturday, January 9, 2016

MARRIAGE 2.0, UPGRADED YET?

Icheoku says if your marriage is not working optimally as you had expected, have you thought about upgrading it? Have you given it a serious thought that it is possibly not working properly because what obtained in the days of your grandfather and grandmother is no longer applicable today? Are you still stuck in the last version Marriage 1.0 or have you upgraded to the new version Marriage 2.0 and if not, why not? Have you considered that possibly all your current marital difficulties may be as a result of your marriage being infected by bugs and viruses, which might be fixed with a simple patch embedded in version Marriage 2.0. 

If you are still stuck with the old ways your parents did things years ago, as handed down by their forebears; and have not woken up to the new realities that today's marriage is no longer amenable to certain things that worked yesterday, what is your problem? If your mother stayed at home while raising you and your siblings, manning (womanning) the domestic department, is your wife presently working and bringing home some bacon too? If your father came home to a well kept home, with food ready to eat; do you expect your wife to also do as your mother did while also working when your mother never worked but remained a stay at home mother throughout? Do you help out with some domestic chores or are you so old fashioned and stuck up in a husbandry stratosphere, expecting your wife to come home from her job and still be the only one running around the kitchen and tidying up the place and still get things done on time and efficiently? 

Icheoku says if you want your wife to be like your mother, are you also prepared to be like your father? Are you ready to provide all her reasonable needs as well as that of your children; and thereafter earn the right to the title of man of the house, with vested rights and privileges as well as benefits? Remember that with every right comes accompanying obligation; and with every privilege comes a duty. So if you are not prepared to make that trade off, then do not expect anything comparable to what your father got and learn to curb your enthusiasm. Always advice yourself properly that the fact of your being married does not automatically confer or beget you with everything your hearts desires and which your mouth commands. This is 2016 and things are no longer what they used to be and demands that you change and adjust accordingly.

Do you belong to the old school of marriage which believes that marriage is a relationship of master and his lady; where one party "husbands" the other party, while the other party merely "wifes" only the home front with unquestionable obedience to the wishes of her master? Or are you of the new school which sees marriage as a partnership relationship of co-equals with corresponding duties, rights and obligations? Aphoristically speaking, do you see marriage as two people riding on a horse with one person sitting behind the other; or as two people in a convertible sitting side by side with no room for third parties? Understanding that someone is still on the steering wheel but does not sit any farther from the co-passenger on the other seat. It is a tandem, co-equals with an alter-ego just for purposes of a seamless navigation. 

Icheoku says how you see your marriage and the mindset with which you approach it, actually determines how much happiness you will mine from it. It also indicates which school of marriage you belong to; and whether or not your marriage is of the old version Marriage 1.0 or has been since upgraded to version Marriage 2.0

Icheoku says if you have someone else as a best friend and not your spouse or a closest confidant who is not your spouse, then not only do you not have a right spouse but you are also still stuck with the old version Marriage 1.0 and you need an upgrade. If your spouse is not your closet confidant, the repository of your secrets, your clearing house, the bedrock of your existence and the center upon which your universe revolves, then you are probably still stuck in the outdated version Marriage 1.0 and need to urgently upgrade. Probe yourself to find out if you have "a spouse" or "the spouse"; as this goes a long way in determining the type of relationship you have with your significant other. 

If peradventure, you see your spouse as just "a husband" or "just a wife", as many would sometimes erroneously refer to their spouses without understanding the ramifications and implications, then you do not have yourself the enviable companionship necessary for version Marriage 2.0 and therefore cannot enjoy its benefits without an upgrade. If you are always thinking about a third party while sharing private moments with your putative spouse, then something is not kosher with your marital situation and you should seriously consider  rebranding or giving it a total makeover. If someone else or something else is more important to you than your spouse or is always given more attention or priority over your spouse; or someone else's matter is treated with speedier dispatch than your spouse's, then be assured that you do not have the right spouse and therefore you should consider either rebooting your marriage or  upgrading it or even think about a total do over. But please whatever happens, do not die in silence or fear of society's chastisement as you have one life to life, so live it. Salute.