Friday, January 22, 2016
WHEN A WOMAN IS SMITTEN, SHE SAYS YES, YES AND MORE YES.
Icheoku says a story about a couple that were brutally murdered in their driveway as they were headed out for dinner in Southern California. As narrated by the guy's sister, who happened to also be the match-maker of her brother and her friend, eighteen years ago, her brother was a chronic bachelor and perpetual suitor-designate until he met her friend. According to her story, her friend was living in New York while they lived in Southern California until her job transferred her to Southern California. So that evening she invited her friend over for a dinner and also her brother, who arrived a little later following the girls arrival. She did not mention a whiff to either party but kept it up her sleeve just in case things did not work out so that she could still retain the affection of both of them. They were all seated in the patio and she introduced her friend to meet her brother and said to her brother, my friend that just moved from New York and then left them to check what she was cooking in the kitchen.
So possibly because of nerve, the lady took out a cigarette, put it in her mouth and made to light it. The man retorted if not that he does not like and cannot stand women who smoke, he would have liked to show her around Los Angeles the tomorrow evening and possibly top it off with a paid dinner. The lady immediately took out the cigarette from her mouth and told him that she could fix the problem right now, here and now. The guy said, really? The lady immediately broke the cigarette and threw it away, saying she would end smoking and never again will she light up. It is on record that the lady has been smoking for close to 13 years. The guy immediately excused himself and went to the kitchen where his sister was mixing things up and whispered into her ear that "she is the one." Continuing, he said that ever since he started playing the field, she was the first woman that ever listened to what he had to say without first retorting or making a rebuttal or even mounting a ferocious argument in return.
He and his sister came back to the patio smiling but said nothing to the lady. They sat down briefly and then moved into the dining for their dinner; whereupon the guy said to the lady, 'what time will be convenient for you to see Los Angeles with me tomorrow evening.' They ate dinner and each left as they came - individually. The brother proposed three weeks later and they married the next month and were the happiest couple around for the eighteen wonderful years they lived together as husband and wife until they were cut down by a debtor who would rather pay hitmen to whack the couple than pay a debt he owed her brother.
The moral of story is that when you see the one, it does not require the pulling of teeth, it naturally flows. It also does not require playing too hard to get, only to later turn into a venomous serpent that delivers deathly bite to your spouse. Most marriage-ready men, desirous of a good marriage, are always looking for a certain particularity before they leap; while majority of women will do whatever it takes as is needed once they are smitten and their heart sold on somebody. So women, if your mother luck of marriage has not smiled at you just yet, ask yourself what is it that men are scared of in approaching you? What is your response trait to some of their prodding and prompts, taking into cognizance Rebecca at the water-well (Genesis 24:17 - 21).
So instead of spending useful time visiting prayer houses or making continuing offering to your pastor or babalawo for a miracle of a husband, pray that the good Lord reveal to you what character trait you possess which turns men off. What is it that you do or say or imply that makes men think it is not afterall worth the trouble or risk of trying? Men rapidly notice women but usually do not find what they are looking for in a wife in those women they walk away from. And to you men, always know what is acceptable and not acceptable tolerant behavior and lay it out there at the onset, the primacy of courtship in order to avoid sadness or a buyer beware. Overall and despite the tragic fate, it was a very good story as told on ID; a very beautiful television channel on life's safety nets, if only you know how to turn around tragic events into an educational opportunity.