GUN VIOLENCE IN AMERICA: FOR WHO THE BELL TOLLS NEXT.

Just five people shy of Sandy Hook elementary school mass shooting incident that claimed 26 lives, the Uvalde Texas Robb elementary school mass shooting at 21 victims, now ranks among the highest grossing gun carnage in America. It is sad that such frequent blood spilling has tragically become part of our culture as a society. May the souls of the killed now rest.

25th AMENDMENT: ITS NOW ALL CRICKET.

Madam Speaker Nancy Pelosi once questioned former President Donald John Trump's fitness to remain in office due to what she claimed was his declining mental capacity. Does anyone know what Madam Speaker presently thinks about the incontrovertible case which America is now saddled with? Just curious!

WHO WILL REBUILD UKRAINE?

The West should convert frozen Russian assets, both state's and oligarchs' owned, into a full seizure and set them aside for the future rebuilding of Ukraine. Like the Marshal Plan, call it the Putin Plan.

A HERO IS BORN.

I am staying put. I will not run away and abandon my people. The fight is here in Ukraine. What I need are weapons and ammunitions, not a ride out of town like former Afghanistan President Ashraf Ghani - President Volodymyr Zelensky.

IT IS WHAT IT IS.

"There is too much hate in America because there is too much anger in America." - Trevor Noah.

WORD!

A life without challenges is not a life lived at all. A life lived is a life that has problems, confronts problems, solves problems and then learns from problems. - Tunde Fashola.

NOW, YOU KNOW.

When fishing for love, bait with your heart and not your brain, because you cannot rationalize love. - Mark Twain.

JUST THE FACT.

In our country, you can shoot and kill a nigger, but you better not hurt a gay person’s feelings - Dave Chappelle

DO YOU?.

“What you believe in can only be defined by what you’re willing to risk for it." - Stuart Scheller.

HEDGE YOUR CRISIS.

Never get in bed with a woman whose problems are worse than yours. - Chicago PD.

PROBLEM SOLVED.

'The best way to keep peace is to be ready to destroy evil. If you Pearl Harbor me, I Nagasaki you.' - Ted Nugent.

OUR SHARED HUMANITY.

Empathy is at the heart of who we are as human beings. - Cardinal Matthew Kukah.

WORDS ON MARBLE.

"Birth is agony. Life is hard. Death is cruel." - Japanese pithy.

REPENT OR PERISH - POPE.

Homosexuality is a sin. It is not ordained by God, therefore same sex marriage cannot be blessed by the church - Pope Francis.

CANCEL CULTURE IS CORROSIVE.


FOR SAKE OF COUNTRY.


MAGA LIVES ON: NO RETREAT, NO SURRENDER!

TWITTER IS BORING WITHOUT HIS TWEETS. #RestorePresidentTrump'sTwitterHandle.


WORD.

"If you cannot speak the truth when it matters, then nothing else you says matters.” - Tucker Carlson.

#MeToo MOVEMENT: A BAD NEWS GONE CRAZY.

"To all the women who testified, we may have different truth, but I have a great remorse for all of you. I have great remorse for all of the men and women going through this crisis right now in our country. You know, the movement started basically with me, and I think what happened, you know, I was the first example, and now there are thousands of men who are being accused and a regeneration of things that I think none of us understood. I’m not going to say these aren’t great people. I had wonderful times with these people. I’m just genuinely confused. Men are confused about this issue. We are going through this #MeToo movement crisis right now in this country." - Harvey Weinstein.


RON DELLUMS: UNAPOLOGETICALLY RADICAL.

"If it’s radical to oppose the insanity and cruelty of the Vietnam War, if it’s radical to oppose racism and sexism and all other forms of oppression, if it’s radical to want to alleviate poverty, hunger, disease, homelessness, and other forms of human misery, then I’m proud to be called a radical.” - Ron Vernie Dellums.


WHAT REALLY MATTERS IN LIFE - STEVE JOBS

“I reached the pinnacle of success in the business world. In others’ eyes, my life is an epitome of success. However, aside from work, I have little joy. Non-stop pursuing of wealth will only turn a person into a twisted being, just like me. God gave us the senses to let us feel the love in everyone’s heart, not the illusions brought about by wealth. Memories precipitated by love is the only true riches which will follow you, accompany you, giving you strength and light to go on. The most expensive bed in the world is the sick bed. You can employ someone to drive the car for you, make money for you but you cannot have someone to bear sickness for you. Material things lost can be found. But there is one thing that can never be found when it is lost – Life. Treasure Love for your family, love for your spouse, love for your friends. Treat yourself well. Cherish others.” - SJ

EVIL CANNOT BE TRULY DESTROYED.

"The threat of evil is ever present. We can contain it as long as we stay vigilant, but it can never truly be destroyed. - Lorraine Warren (Annabelle, the movie)


ONLY THE POOR WISH THEY HAD STUFF?

“I’m not that interested in material things. As long as I find a good bed that I can sleep in, that’s enough.” - Nicolas Berggruem, the homeless billionaire.

Friday, February 6, 2009

SEPARATION OR DIVORCE, NIGERIAN (IGBO) STYLE? - an article by Vicky Awuzie

Once upon a time, the Igbo people of Nigeria used to salivate about our heritage, our core family values and our unique culture – a culture that promoted family unity, love for one another and much more. These days, all of the above is in question as our community continues in its state of ruckuses. The crises are enormous and one wonders how to approach these complex issues that are swallowing us. This article is not intended to be an indictment on all persons that left United States in search of a better living in Nigeria rather, it is an overview intended to bring about another issue to light.
The latest in the pool of our crises is the diminishing presence of some of our dads in the household. I ask myself - am I the only one witnessing this, or have we turned our left ear to it? What I’m discovering is the diminish-ment of our various values. As these values truncate, I wonder if anyone especially the elders (leaders) are going to speak up. Are they going to call a forum where these concerns can be brought to light and weed a way for rectifying them? Is this a joke that will eventually evaporate? Sometimes, I wish I could become one of those that pretend that everything is alright and just shut up, but I can’t especially if children are involved. As I delve this issue in my never-resting brain, I decided that I’m equally going to ravel Maggie, my friend’s brain too. So, I placed a call to her to get her views. I respect Maggie’s opinion she is intelligent and objectionable. She answers the call – after all the “yab-yab” talk, I decided to get to the main reason for the call. Do you see what I’m seeing? She questioned what I talking about? I’m talking about the state of some of our Igbo families. What about them she asked.
The newest arrival in the pool of our problems is the abandoning of some of our families by some of our men in the name of establishing a business or getting a job in Nigeria. The trend is, a jobless dad or not having the ideal professional job packs his belongings and informs his family that he is moving to Nigeria for a better life. He promises them that he would send them money and would visit often. Before you know it, he is gone for several months and sometimes one year or more and he does not send the money. Now, don’t get me wrong, I know some business men who travel for a month or six weeks, but I’m addressing those that are gone for time on end and those that do not have that proclaimed business. Please return to your families because your children need you.
On the other hand, if two adults with no children decided that this is what they want (separation or divorce in disguise) for their relationship; I have absolutely no qualms with it. My qualms and therefore the motive of my writing is when there are children involved. How does a dad justify his absence for months sometimes a year or more? How does he justify not sending the money he promised? In retrospect, it means that he has not secured a job in Nigeria neither did the business he had hoped for kicked off. In some cases, the wife is the one sending him money through Western Union. Thank God for Western union, huh? So, how can this situation be justified?
In light of the fact that the wife is the main enabler in this, I ask, are you equally distressed of the relationship that you are secretly salivating his absence? If that is the case, wouldn’t it be better you called it for what it is? Women have the tendency to be scornful towards other women that speak the truth even when the subject matter is in their favor. So, sisters, before you pull out the daggers, because this truth is too true, think twice! Have I not just said what you have been secretly nourishing? I think a thank you is in order and the dagger can be put away. What about your personal needs? I am sure you miss that – don’t you?
For the men involved – wouldn’t it be better you tell your wife here of your actual living style in Nigeria? Wouldn’t it be better you come clean and inform her that you are enjoying Nigeria and you have no intention of coming back except for special occasions? The children are the ultimate losers in these premises. They constantly ask mom when dad is coming back and if daddy has rejected them. Of course, mom comes up with some manufactured truth.
The deal is, we should be concerned about the state of our community. This is a bad tree trying to grow amongst us and we should nip it in the bud. If we don’t, we shall become a community where only women raise the families. The children are the losers particularly the boys who need a father role model in the house. I don’t have to tell anyone how most children that grew up without fathers influence turned out to be. We don’t have to join the statistics.
I say to the Igbo people, rise and speak the truth, rise and break away from your shell of fear of another human being. What we need to cultivate is respect for one another. Stop worrying about what papa Emeka and mama Carro will think of you. That is for them to decide. As long as your conscience is good, you will always be the champion and pioneer of good deeds. God is watching out for all of us. I haven’t claimed a perfect relationship, but I want my husband here with me and the children. That is more relevant to me than the invisible millions he would be chasing in Nigeria and that’s something I think we can all agree on.

2 comments:

  1. but the timid wives who remain dutiful to their marital oaths is to blame; why don't they just divorce such abandoning husbands or better still get themselves boyfriends whom they can lavish their nurse-money on instead of sending them through western unions to their cheating husbands, so called back in Nigeria? the money they use to chase young shcool girls some of whon are just under sixteen. concerned citizen maria

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  2. you're right, vicky! are these nigerians your friends otherwise how do you know? good articulated viewpoint though! - ngenegbo miami florida

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